Economic Malpractice versus a Super US Economy

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As of April, 2026 the US economy has survived 16 months of Trumpian economic malpractice.

  1. Tariffs have cost each family $2,000 annually, acting as a huge tax increase. Suppliers and importers have absorbed less than one-fourth of the increased costs.
  2. Tariffs and surrounding uncertainty have stopped normal business investments, R&D and new hiring.
  3. $34 billion of green energy projects have been cancelled.
  4. Manufacturing employment continues to decline.
  5. Foreign born employment has been flat, after increasing by 4 million during 2022-24 to 31.8 million.
  6. Farm bankruptcies grew by 46% due to retaliatory tariffs, labor shortages and input cost increases.
  7. Mortgage rates have increased by 1% compared to the federal funds rate due to increased inflation, budget deficits and Fed independence concerns. In time, that is an extra $1,500 annually for every home mortgage.
  8. Inflation was trending towards its 2% target. Trump policies have increased it to 3% and rising. This costs the median family budget $1,000 per year.
  9. The DOGE initiatives and government shutdowns have made the federal government much less effective in performing its core functions.
  10. Reduced IRS staffing is forecast to reduce revenue collections by $750 billion per decade.
  11. Higher import tariffs increase input costs to American manufacturers, placing small and medium sized firms at greater risk of bankruptcy.
  12. The US credit rating has been reduced by Moody’s due to the growing budget deficit and uncertainties, adding to the long-run cost of servicing the $39 trillion debt. At a nominal 0.25% premium that adds another $700 per year to the average household’s cost for debt service.
  13. Frozen, reduced and politicized federal R&D threaten future economic advances.
  14. The value of the US dollar has declined by 10%, making imports more expensive and exports more attractive.
  15. The consumer sentiment index has declined from 70 to 50, as low as the depths of the pandemic!
  16. Trump has required coal-fired power plants to operate beyond their planned retirement dates, costing consumers $5 billion per year.
  17. The Iran war costs the country $50 billion.
  18. Weaker relations with others will cost the US $1-3 billion annually in reduced foreign travelers.

Why hasn’t the economy tanked? The Iran war and tariffs may combine to tip the US economy into recession before the end of 2026, but so far it has been very resilient. How is this possible?

Good News: The Business Cycle is Done – Good News

The US Economy Leads the World – Good News

  1. The long-term trends point to dynamic and creative US business and labor sectors compared with other countries.
  2. The US economy has moved from a high fixed cost manufacturing world to a diversified service and knowledge economy, diversifying its economy and risks.
  3. The US economy is more globally competitive and able to use international trade to manage its risks.
  4. The AI revolution has sparked a huge data center and electricity power investment cycle. This is a classic Keynesian investment multiplier-accelerator situation, driving large investments today to support future expected demand.
  5. The US stock market valuation has grown based upon historical growth trends, US competitiveness and the expectation of future business-friendly policies (regulation, competition, taxation, trade).
  6. The wealth effect of the stock market has boosted the K-shaped economy with higher income/wealth families continuing to spend.
  7. The One Big Beautiful Bill is a classic Keynesian economic stimulus from lower effective tax rates. In the short-run, the bond markets have not yet determined that the US has reached the point where it’s deficit spending is unsustainable. It may be close to that limit.
  8. The “exorbitant privilege” of the US dollar as the world’s reserve currency and hedge for economic uncertainty remains in place. This is another “tipping point” situation where at some time China and the EU become reasonable options and US government borrowing rates spike upwards.
  9. The federal reserve bank has cut baseline interest rates from 5.3% to 3.6%, offering borrowers a loose monetary policy, even if Trump calls for even lower rates.
  10. Annual new home construction starts remain at 1.3 million as builders bet that higher housing prices and an 8-year building deficit will have to be filled. Historically they would have reduced their investments.
  11. Employers remember the pain of filling open positions after the pandemic and remain slow to make major job cuts that can be rationalized away.
  12. 3% inflation is “manageable” by producers and consumers, even if it is not at the nominal 2% target.
  13. TACO: Trump has not maintained his headline import tariff levels.
  14. US imports are only 14% of GDP, down from 17% in 2011. Tariff changes have a smaller impact.
  15. US strength in trade negotiations has been confirmed. Other countries have mostly chosen not to implement significant retaliatory tariffs. China is an exception.
  16. Health care job growth has continued as the US population ages and requires greater care funded by employer insurance, Medicare and savings.
  17. The leisure and hospitality industry has added jobs as the pandemic travel rebound continues.
  18. The energy industry investments in wind, solar and transmission continue after a decade of limited investments, despite Trump’s lack of current support.
  19. Trump’s pro-business tax, regulation, enforcement and competition policies provide businesses with opportunities to grow their profits.
  20. The core age labor force participation rate remains at an historically high 84%.
  21. Global oil prices trended down by 25% during 2023-2025. They’re up by two-thirds in the last few months.
  22. Labor force productivity growth has been 3%+ during 2023-2025 after 3 years of no growth in 2020-2022.
  23. The US leads the world in scientific and economic innovation by a wide margin.

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Summary

Trump’s policies have cost the typical American family about $5,000 per year on a base of $100,00. They feel this and reflect it in the consumer sentiment surveys.

The US economy is far more diversified, resilient, creative, innovative, responsive than it was historically. It is able to adapt to changing regulations, immigration, regulatory enforcement, tariffs and opportunities. It is well positioned to succeed in the new US and global environment.

Practicing Civility: Table of Contents (0-2)

Preface

Civility References (0-3) – Good News

Civility Prayers (0-5) – Good News

Civility

Civility Defined (1-1) – Good News

Civility Misperceptions (1-2) – Good News

Creating a Virtuous Cycle With Civility (1-3) – Good News

Social Norm of Civility (1-4) – Good News

Social Context

Context: Toyota Corolla or ’57 Chevy? (2-1) – Good News

Root Causes of the Decline of Civility (2-2) – Good News

Our Political Situation (2-3) – Good News

Prospects for Civility (2-4) – Good News

Values

Civility Values (3-1) – Good News

Moral Values (3-2) – Good News

Motivation for Civility (3-3) – Good News

Inspiration for Civility (3-4) – Good News

Behaviors

Civility Behaviors (4-0) – Good News

Emotional Awareness (4-1) – Good News

Feelings Wheel (4-1W) – Good News

Self-Assessment (4-2) – Good News

Gallup Strengths (4-2S) – Good News

Emotional Self-Control (4-11) – Good News

Adaptability (4-12) – Good News

Achievement Motivation (4-13) – Good News

Trustworthiness (4-14) – Good News

Empathy (5-1) – Good News

Active Listening (5-2) – Good News

Active Listening 2 (5-3) – Good News

Crucial Conversations (5-10) – Good News

Things We Have In Common (5-11) – Good News

Patience and Interrupting (5-12) – Good News

Mirroring and Matching Communications (5-13) – Good News

Listen to Understand (5-14) – Good News

Maintaining Self-Respect and Boundaries (6-1) – Good News

Authenticity (6-2) – Good News

Positivity (6-3) – Good News

Resilience (6-4) – Good News

Distinguishing I and You Statements (6-5) – Good News

Problem First Protocol (6-6) – Good News

Challenges

What Americans Have In Common (7-1) – Good News

The 8 Older Men and Civility (7-2) – Good News

Challenges to Adopting Civility (7-3) – Good News

Overcoming the Limitations of Human Nature (7-4) – Good News

Social Capital: Individualism vs Community (8-1) – Good News

Protecting Your Identity (8-2) – Good News

DEI and Authority, Honor and Loyalty (8-3) – Good News

Tolerance and Truth (8-4) – Good News

Moral Foundations Theory / The Righteous Mind (9-1) – Good News

Political Attitudes and Actions (9-2) – Good News

Reducing Political Polarization (9-3) – Good News

A Pox on Both of Your Houses (9-4) – Good News

Actions

Civility Taboos (10-1) – Good News

Responding to Incivility (10-2) – Good News

Creating Safe Spaces for Civility (10-3) – Good News

Everyday Civility Actions (10-4) – Good News

Leading the Civility Revolution (10-5) – Good News

Leading the Civility Revolution (10-5)

Ex 10-5: How I Will Lead the “Viral” Civility Revolution in My Communities

Activity: Circle 10-15 action items in at least 5 different categories

  1. Practice Civility
  • Choose one local government board and attend their monthly meetings to observe Civil and uncivil behavior.
  • Invest in social capital – hospitality – attend or host a block party.
  • Invest in social capital – hospitality – join a dinner club or participate in a pink flamingo/”pitch in” party.
  • Invest in social capital – hospitality – host or participate in a “porching” activity.
  • Invest in social capital – participate in a single organization.
  • Invest in social capital – visit a local “third place” once a month.
  • Invest in social capital – volunteer for a single organization.
  • Invest time practicing your religion or philosophy to make it more effective for you and your community.
  • Join a civic organization and participate actively.
  • Join a Toastmasters club to improve communications skills.
  • Join and participate in Braver Angels.
  • Join the League of Women Voters or another nonpartisan civic advocacy group.
  • Practice becoming aware of subconscious moral, political and religious choices and ability to examine them.
  • Practice the 14 “everyday” Civility steps.
  1. Learn More About Civility
  • Apply for a leadership development program like the Hamilton County Leadership Academy.
  • Apply for political leadership training with your political party.
  • Complete a personal values clarification exercise and ensure that the 7 Civility values fit you well.
  • Complete a personality profile class to contrast your strengths and opportunities as “paired sets”.
  • Complete a personality profile class to contrast your strengths with family members and coworkers.
  • Complete a personality profile or Gallup strengths/talents class to understand your strengths and opportunities.
  • Discuss with your professional/personal mentor how Civility training, leadership and practice fit with your goals.
  • Enroll in a Situational Leadership class to learn Civility skills and practice responsibility.
  • Enroll in an “Oz Principle” management development class to improve responsibility and problem-solving skills.
  • Obtain library audio versions of the 40 Civility books for use in your commute or exercise time.
  • Pursue professional designation/license training courses that cover Civility topics.
  • Read and discuss the 40 Civility books (skills and overviews).
  • Reread previous professional development / organizational development /management courses for Civility content.
  • Research media bias and subscribe to a high-quality fact-based newspaper or magazine.
  • Subscribe to a “good news” source that emphasizes the amazing progress of individuals and mankind.
  • Subscribe to a few Civility blogs, organizations and news sources.
  • Take advantage of continuing professional education seminars that overlap with Civility skills.
  • Take advantage of free online courses, videos and book summaries for problem-solving topics.
  • Work through your Diversity, Equity, Inclusion courses and cross-reference the content to the Civility values and skills.
  1. Master “Advanced” Civility Insights
  • Master Haidt’s “rider and elephant”, Kahneman’s “thinking, fast and slow” and Allen’s “time management”.
  • Master the 9 moral foundations of politics; explain why each is natural, attractive and valid.
  • Master the definition of Civility and the 7 values and 7 skills.
  • Master the misperceptions of Civility and be able to communicate this to others.
  • Research and confirm the nonpartisan Civility values and skills to persuade others.
  • Research and embrace the central role of influence, persuasion, marketing, power, negotiation and leadership in life.
  • Research and master the critical concept of win/win, both/and compared with win/lose, either/or thinking.
  • Research and master the ideas of tolerance and truth-telling as applied in Civility.
  1. Become “Highly Motivated”
  • Add skilled communicator, relationship builder and problem solver to your personal identity as you practice Civility.
  • Affirm that courageously applying Civility skills will be perceived positively by almost everyone.
  • Affirm your personal right to choose and not be led into “victim” positions by others.
  • Define your duty to practice Civility – supported by religion or philosophy
  • Define your primary duty to practice Civility.
  • Determine what motivates and inspires you to practice Civility.
  • Develop courage by – identifying how strong Civility skills build security in all arenas.
  • Develop courage by – identifying your emotional and multiple intelligence talents.
  • Develop courage by – partnering with others.
  • Develop courage by – practicing centering and meditation exercises.
  • Recognize that Civility, personal growth, character and religion are inherently life-long development areas worthy of your time.
  • Reflect on your personal experience in undertaking long-term learning and doing projects.
  • Review and deeply consider how Civility skills can help in personal, work, neighbor, church, political environments.
  • Review and deeply consider the personal and professional benefits of improving Civility skills.
  • Study and confirm your religion/philosophy’s support of the 7 Civility values.
  • Summarize your reasons for investing in “practicing Civility”.
  1. Make Commitments
  • Create a personal and professional Civility growth plan.
  • Encourage your church, work, club, neighborhood, representative to adopt a Civility pledge.
  • Make a one-year Civility partner agreement with someone.
  • Make a personal Civility pledge.
  1. Pray for Progress
  • Pray for all individuals to become more self-aware of their biases and blind spots and find ways to improve.
  • Pray for our national leaders to re-establish a Civil discussion on how to improve our institutions.
  • Pray for all national leaders to re-establish a Civil discussion of the most important policy topics.
  • Pray for guidance as to how you can be more effective in practicing Civility for the benefit of your communities.
  • Pray for leaders of the modern Civility movement to refine, modify and improve their ideas, communications and actions.
  • Pray for leadership in all organizations to encourage the practice of Civility skills and values.
  • Pray for our business leaders to invest in Civility training to benefit their organizations, employees and society.
  • Pray for our religious leaders to more effectively communicate and inspire individuals to consider the biggest questions.
  • Pray for our society and leaders to address the root causes of insecurity that haunt so many of us today.
  • Pray for our universities and social scientists to more effectively summarize, teach and apply the Civility skills for all.
  • Pray for political leaders to see that Civility is necessary for our democracy and to actively reduce polarization.
  • Pray for strength to apply Civility skills and values in the most challenging situations.
  • Pray for support on the most challenging dimensions of practicing Civility and living the Civility values.
  1. Use My Power to Influence
  • Encourage your precinct committee person to promote Civility in your political party.
  • Help to create a safe place for Civility – at church
  • Help to create a safe place for Civility – at home
  • Help to create a safe place for Civility – at work
  • Propose some of the 40 Civility books for your book club.
  • Use social media tools to share and promote Civility articles and opportunities.
  • Volunteer for the board of your homeowners’ association.
  1. Choose to Lead
  • Apply to be appointed to a local government advisory board.
  • Ask for the opportunity to lead a project team or workgroup to increase opportunities to practice Civility.
  • Choose one organization, team, committee or project team and lead Civility programs for it.
  • Encourage your children to enroll in scouts, youth development, civics, youth exchange or student affairs programs.
  • Enroll in a Civility ambassador program with an organization.
  • Lead a book study on one of the 40 Civility books.
  • Offer to serve as a Civility mentor to one person for one year.
  • Self-identify as a Civility ambassador, champion or “Civiliteer”; include this role on your email signature.
  • Volunteer as a youth leader to increase opportunities to practice Civility.
  • Volunteer for a team, group or project leader position in a club, neighborhood, church, civic or not-for-profit organization.
  • Volunteer to co-lead the “Practicing Civility” workshop as assigned by a Civility organization.
  • Volunteer to teach any topic – church, scouts, work, club, sports, professional – to improve communications skills.

Everyday Civility Actions (10-4)

Ex 10-4: Everyday Civility Actions

Question 1: Is the core or essence of Civility this straightforward?

Question 2: Can everyone practice Civility?

Question 3: Can we “sell” this set of Civility behaviors to everyone?

Question 4: What prevents this version of Civility from becoming a cultural norm?

  1. Communicate effectively: active listening, seek to understand, solutions, facts versus opinions, ideas not people, engage, don’t interrupt, use “I statements”, proper tone.
  2. Self-control: think twice, choose your battles, manage emotions, be patient.
  3. Be Responsible: own the process, fulfill commitments, respond promptly, manage shared spaces, clean up after yourself.
  4. Be Authentic: walk the talk, follow the golden rule, say what you mean.
  5. Apologize sincerely.
  6. Address incivility.
  7. Value “others”: follow team rules, consider other’s perspectives, empathize, seek the common good, provide constructive feedback.
  8. Be Respectful: others, priorities, viewpoints, ideas, solutions, politics, religion, identity, feelings, history, relations, ownership, time, timelines, commitments, while disagreeing, focus, engage, privacy, boundaries, situations.
  9. Recognize: others, efforts, contributions, teams, leaders, peers, suppliers, partners, culture.
  10. Manage relationships: invest time, listening, empathy, understanding, feedback, follow-up, heads-up, no surprises, motivate, shared accountability, fair share, dirty work, spotlight, recognition, opportunities.
  11. Be Inclusive: celebrate differences, welcome, encourage, open, honest, sensitive, listen, access, opportunities, voices, roles, safety, protection.
  12. Be Positive.
  13. Be Kind.
  14. Be Polite.

Creating Safe Spaces for Civility (10-3)

Ex 10-3: Creating “Safe Spaces” for Practicing Civility

“The Courageous Circle” demonstrates how a foundation of safety allows people to take risks they would otherwise avoid.

 The Setup (2 Minutes)

* The Rule: Establish a “Civility Protocol.” For the next 15 minutes, everyone agrees to:

1. Listen to understand, not to rebut.

 2. Suspend judgment (replace “That’s wrong” with “Tell me more”).

 3. Acknowledge intent (assume everyone is acting in good faith).

Step 1: The “Safe” Share (4 Minutes)

Ask everyone to pair up. Each person has 90 seconds to share a low-stakes opinion they usually keep to themselves (e.g., “I think the 4-day work week is actually more stressful” or “I think our team meetings are 10 minutes too long”).  The Goal: Practice the Civility Protocol. The listener simply nods and says, “Thank you for sharing that perspective.”

Step 2: The “Courage” Leap (6 Minutes)

In the same pairs, up the ante. Ask each person to share a professional or personal concern: (I don’t understand artificial intelligence.  I no longer read a daily newspaper.  I’m terrified of public speaking.  I block annoying people on social media.  I’m afraid democracy doesn’t work anymore.).

* The Twist: Because the first round established a “no-fire zone,” participants feel the psychological safety necessary to be vulnerable.

* The Listener’s Job: Ask one curious, non-judgmental question: “What would need to change for you to feel more confident about that?”

Step 3: The De-Brief (3 Minutes)

Bring the group back together and ask two questions:

   1. “How did the Civility Protocol change your willingness to be honest in the second round?”

   2. “Did it take more or less courage to speak when you knew you wouldn’t be attacked?”

The Takeaway: Civility isn’t about being “nice”; it’s about creating a predictable environment where the “cost” of being brave is lowered.

Creating safe spaces for Civility requires intentional, structured efforts to foster mutual respect, trust, and psychological safety, allowing for open dialogue without fear of harassment or personal attacks. The process involves establishing clear behavioral expectations, training participants, and modeling respectful behavior.

1. Establish Foundational Rules and Expectations

Define Civility and Create a Code of Conduct: Clearly define what respectful behavior looks like in your context: listening without interrupting, asking curious questions rather than making assumptions, addressing conflict directly, speaking directly, exact role of tolerance, “off limits” topics or views, agreed upon taboos, positivity. This should be coordinated with the definition of your desired “corporate culture”.

Ground Rules: Set norms to ensure shared ownership. Examples include using “I” statements, separating people from problems, avoiding “us-versus-them” language, decency, no fear, no polarization, no threats, bullying or harassment, no lies, no violence, no personal criticism, zingers, insults or sarcasm, separate facts and opinions, proactive time and topic management, welcoming “others” without condoning acts or speech, procedural rules.

Set Confidentiality Guidelines: identity of persons, communications, quotations, photos, images, likenesses, documents, arguments, data, files, intellectual property, legal requirements and exceptions.   

2. Implement Leadership and Modeling

Lead by Example: Leaders model respectful communication, actively listen, welcome all and show empathy.  Leaders use their power to prevent, stop, correct and mitigate uncivil behavior.  Maintain independence as the moderator.  Promote collaboration and participation.

Acknowledge Potential Power Dynamics: Power and privilege can shape interactions.  Welcome all individuals and groups to share on an equal basis.  Encourage “brave spaces” that allow for vulnerability, where leaders welcome feedback and admit mistakes to show it is safe to do so.

Ensure Accountability: Swiftly and consistently address incidents of incivility or harassment to demonstrate that respectful behavior is non-negotiable. Provide known, independent avenues for investigation of claims against leaders or participants.  Use stated parliamentary procedures to manage regular interactions.  Require compliance with definitions, codes, rules, procedures and rulings.

3. Cultivate an Inclusive and Welcoming Atmosphere

Promote Inclusivity: Actively ensure that diverse perspectives are heard and valued, which builds a stronger sense of belonging.  Define role of “trigger warnings” and “microaggressions”.  Prohibit use of language, actions or symbols to divide or intimidate.  Address history that can undermine Civility today.  Share leadership opportunities.  Accommodate requests for assistance.  Value different intelligences, personality and learning styles.

Create Physical/Virtual Safety: Choose accessible, neutral locations for meetings. In virtual spaces, ensure tools like closed captioning are available.

Use Inclusive Language: Be mindful of tone and impact, avoiding discriminatory language.  Welcome the use of varied languages/dialects and communications styles.  Encourage but do not require participation.

4. Provide Civility Training and Tools

Offer Civility Training: Equip people with emotional intelligence, active listening, and conflict resolution skills.

Train Facilitators: Use trained “civility champions” to manage high-emotion conversations and guide dialogue constructively.

Utilize De-escalation Strategies: Train participants to use techniques like CLARA (Calm, Listen, Acknowledge, Respond, Assess) to handle tense situations.

5. Sustain and Reinforce the Culture

Recognize and Reward Civility: Publicly acknowledge individuals who demonstrate respectful, collaborative behavior.

Encourage Feedback: Create anonymous or safe channels for feedback to assess the environment regularly.  Encourage participants to directly give and welcome feedback.

Make it Ongoing: Civility is not a one-time initiative; provide regular training and reminders of the established norms.

By implementing these steps, organizations can move from an “indifferent” space to one that actively fosters respect, increasing engagement, resolving conflict and solving problems.

[1] https://www.loebleadership.com/insights/ten-tips-creating-respect-civility-in-your-workplace

[2] https://www.uottawa.ca/research-innovation/sites/g/files/bhrskd326/files/2025-10/bhi_safe_spaces_tips_en.pdf

[3] https://www.inclusivv.co/blog/how-to-scale-civility-across-your-organization

[4] https://www.forbes.com/councils/forbesbusinesscouncil/2025/01/10/workplace-civility-building-respectful-work-environments-to-drive-performance-and-productivity/

[5] https://extension.unr.edu/publication.aspx?PubID=5268

[6] https://www.shrm.org/content/dam/en/shrm/topics-tools/topics/civility/shrm-5-steps-for-encouraging-civil-conversations-at-work.pdf

[7] https://www.voiceatthetable.com/blog/7-tips-for-creating-safe-spaces-for-speaking-out/

[8] https://leadershipinspirations.com/creating-a-safe-space/

[10] https://www.oneworkforcelincs.co.uk/value/belonging/psychological-safety/top-tips-for-creating-a-psychologically-safe-environment

[11] https://www.shrm.org/content/dam/en/shrm/topics-tools/topics/civility/shrm-workplace-civility-handbook.pdf

[12] https://www.newleaders.org/blog/creating-safe-and-brave-spaces-fostering-psychological-safety-in-schools

[13] https://eocc.lehigh.edu/sites/eocc.lehigh.edu/files/Syntrio-Essential-Guide-to-Creating-a-Civil-and-Respectful-Workplace-210426-wev.pdf

[14] https://www.iofc.ch/stories/10-tips-creating-safe-space

[16] https://safecarebc.ca/topics/respect-and-civility-in-the-workplace/

Responding to Incivility (10-2)

Ex 10-2: Responding to Incivility

Question: Which model(s) will you master and use?

Google AI – April 2, 2026

Several exercises and models can be used to illustrate and practice effective responses to uncivil speech, focusing on techniques like cognitive rehearsal, assertive communication, and role-playing. [1, 2, 3]

1. Cognitive Rehearsal (Rehearsing Responses)

This evidence-based framework involves practicing specific, calm responses to anticipated uncivil remarks, allowing individuals to react constructively under stress.

  • Exercise: Create a list of common uncivil behaviors (e.g., sarcastic comments, interruptions, eyerolling) and have participants practice verbal responses.
  • Sample Phrases to Rehearse:
    • “I feel uncomfortable when…”
    • “Please don’t interrupt me.”
    • “Let’s focus on the facts.”
    • “Please explain your comment without sarcasm”. [2, 6, 7, 8]

2. The DESC Model for Assertive Communication

The DESC model provides a structured approach to addressing behavior without becoming aggressive.

  • D – Describe: Describe the specific, unwanted behavior (e.g., “When you raised your voice during the meeting…”)
  • E – Express: Express how the situation makes you feel using “I” statements (e.g., “…I felt dismissed.”)
  • S – Suggest/Specify: Suggest an alternative behavior or specify what you need (e.g., “Please let me finish my point.”)
  • C – Consequences: Outline the consequences of continued behavior (e.g., “This allows us to work together efficiently”). [9, 10, 11, 12]

3. Role-Playing “Draggles and Wowzers”

A 45-minute interactive exercise where participants act out scenarios of uncivil behavior (known as “Draggles”) in a classroom or workplace, with others practicing constructive intervention techniques.

  • Goal: To help participants identify, experience, and intervene in hurtful behaviors while in a safe environment. [1]

4. Bystander Intervention Training (The 5 D’s)

If you witness incivility rather than experience it directly, use these techniques to interrupt the cycle:

  • Direct: Directly address the person being uncivil (e.g., “That comment was offensive”).
  • Distract: Interrupt the interaction by asking a completely different question to the target.
  • Delegate: Find someone else, such as a manager, to intervene.
  • Delay: Check in with the target later to offer support.
  • Document: Take notes on what was said/done for reporting purposes. [7, 14, 15]

5. Civility Self-Reflection Exercise

  • Activity: Have individuals read statements about their behavior—such as “When a conversation gets heated, I act as an inflamer/listener/inquirer”—and reflect on how their reactions contribute to or de-escalate incivility. [17]
  • Name the Behavior: Clearly label what is happening, e.g., “That was a personal attack,” rather than addressing the subject matter.
  • Use Silence: Allowing silence after an uncivil comment can break the momentum and highlight the rudeness of the remark.
  • Set Boundaries: State clear expectations for future interaction. [7, 9, 17]

[1] https://absel-ojs-ttu.tdl.org/absel/article/view/3067/3065

[2] https://www.myamericannurse.com/cne-civility/

[3] https://www.scribd.com/document/441662733/3-4-Assertive-Communication-Practice

[4] https://search.proquest.com/openview/2231a24f31fe643d95385e6838641d7e/1?pq-origsite=gscholar&cbl=35533

[5] https://journals.healio.com/doi/10.3928/00220124-20200514-04

[6] https://ncpre.csl.illinois.edu/holding/incivility-and-bullying-quick-tips

[7] https://titleix.sfsu.edu/sites/default/files/documents/Civility%20in%20the%20Workplace.%20Heather%20Borlase%20and%20Fred%20Smith.%20062821.pdf

[8] https://www.timjacksonphd.com/content/files/2025/04/Comparing-ostracism-and-incivility.2016.pdf

[9] https://www.ons.org/publications-research/voice/news-views/03-2019/recognize-and-respond-incivility-nursing

[10] https://www.k-state.edu/media-communication/about/icdd/discussionguide/Civility%20and%20Inclusion%20in%20the%20Workplace%20-%20A%20Communication%20Workshop.pdf

[11] https://quizlet.com/study-guides/desc-conflict-resolution-describe-express-state-consequences-5f96cbc8-eaa4-410a-b7d6-9a70e7aa11f6

[12] https://iveronicawalsh.wordpress.com/2023/09/05/an-cbt-thought-reframe-example/

[13] https://www.wbconsultingllc.com/wblog/interrupting-incivility

[14] https://fiveable.me/social-psychology/unit-12/reducing-aggression-violence/study-guide/RP0IkiDWO17TTFkh

[15] https://sta.uwi.edu/eng/electrical/sites/default/files/electrical/documents/Student%20Awareness%20Session%20-%20Countering%20Discriminations.pdf

[16] https://www.sphere-ed.org/publication/principles-civil-discourse-primer

[17] https://www.uscourts.gov/about-federal-courts/educational-resources/educational-activities/civil-discourse-and-difficult-decisions/civility-self-reflection-exercise-civil-discourse-and-difficult-decisions

6. More detailed suggestions:

Effective responses to uncivil speech involve staying calm, setting clear boundaries, and using counter speech to address, rather than amplify, hostility. Strategies include calling out disrespectful behavior, using humor or facts, rephrasing harmful remarks, or disengaging. Key approaches include:

  • Set Boundaries: State clearly that the language is unacceptable and ask for a rephrase.
  • Use Counter speech: Counteract hate with facts, empathy, or humor rather than engaging in a fight.
  • Redirect the Topic: Reframe the conversation toward accountability rather than the defensive, per a Quora answer on handling rude speech.
  • Report & Block: Utilize platform reporting tools for harassment on social media, says a study on standing up to hate. [1, 2, 3, 5, 6, 7]

Key Strategies in Detail:

  • Pause and Act Calmly: Avoid reacting emotionally, which often fuels the uncivil behavior.
  • Acknowledge Rights, Criticize Speech: Acknowledge a person’s right to speak but state that their, “comments were rude, cruel, offensive, or unacceptable,” explains a Quora user..
  • Highlight Hypocrisy: Point out the inconsistency of defending hostile speech while demanding accountability, says a
  • Engage Bystanders: Encourage others to report or comment, creating a normative pressure against uncivil, comments the Dangerous Speech Project.
  • Disengage: If the behavior continues, walking away or stopping engagement is an effective, powerful option. [1, 3, 4, 8, 9, 10, 11]

[1] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LUKkApwLYrk

[2] https://www.dangerousspeech.org/counterspeech

[3] https://www.quora.com/Whats-a-good-way-to-respond-when-someone-says-something-rude-harmful-and-justifies-it-with-freedom-of-speech

[4] https://www.dangerousspeech.org/thematics/research-review

[5] https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/1369118X.2026.2636131

[6] https://www.quora.com/Whats-a-good-way-to-respond-when-someone-says-something-rude-harmful-and-justifies-it-with-freedom-of-speech

[7] https://www.crimrxiv.com/pub/wg16c4ls

[8] https://www.asha.org/about/civility-scenarios/

[9] https://www.un.org/en/hate-speech/take-action/engage

[10] https://www.quora.com/Whats-a-good-way-to-respond-when-someone-says-something-rude-harmful-and-justifies-it-with-freedom-of-speech

[11] https://www.quora.com/Whats-a-good-way-to-respond-when-someone-says-something-rude-harmful-and-justifies-it-with-freedom-of-speech

Civility Taboos (10-1)

Ex 10-1: Evaluating the Civility Taboos

Question 1:  Identify 5 items that are not “taboo”.  Another 5 that are “marginal”?

Question 2: Are there other taboos to enforce in our shared public life?

Introduction

Cultures exist because individuals need to be combined into communities. Without cultural norms, expectations, education, rewards, penalties and taboos there wouldn’t be any culture, community or civilization. Modern “Civility” is a set of values, skills and behaviors required to hold together a diverse, multicultural society like the United States. With the growing breakdown of historic western Christian culture, the US needs to actively embrace the values subset of “Civility” in order to make our political, social and economic worlds function effectively. This requires society – and its leaders and influencers – to clearly define select important aspirational values AND to define what is TABOO, poison, shunned, beyond the pale, unacceptable, and rejected by all. We focus on the Civility values.

MODERN TABOOS FOR EVERYONE

  1. Angry outbursts and yelling.
  2. Attacking ideas, opinions and proposals without reason.
  3. Raising personal opinions, values or interests above professional responsibility.
  4. Ignoring uncivil actions.
  5. Allowing high value-added performers to ignore civility standards.
  6. Insults or ridicule.
  7. Blame or gossip.
  8. Taking credit for others’ work.
  9. Slavery, torture, rape, female genital mutilation, child marriage.
  10. Bullying.
  11. Forced marriage.
  12. Arbitrary imprisonment.
  13. Commercialization of human life, prostitution.
  14. Voting rights limits.
  15. Group discrimination, shaming.
  16. Ignoring or neglecting others; individuals or local groups.
  17. Addressing individuals with disrespect.
  18. Treating individuals as a means, a class member, rather than a human being, an infinitely valuable end [Immanuel Kant].
  19. Gaslighting.
  20. Ignoring questions of race, nationality, gender, sexuality, disabilities or mental health.
  21. Arbitrarily rejecting personal choices about personal fashion, modesty or body image.
  22. Arbitrarily rejecting proposed reparations for historical group damages.
  23. Failing to recognize that policies that benefit minorities might unfairly harm majorities.
  24. Embracing victimhood.
  25. Abdicating responsibility for making personal choices.
  26. Failing to use logic to make choices; following will, desire or emotion alone.
  27. Failing to define and pursue personal goals.
  28. Failing to consider the consequences of one’s personal actions.
  29. Allowing others to strictly determine one’s choices (family, groups, ideologies, professionals, experts, science, leaders, political parties, public opinion).
  30. Blaming others, making excuses, hiding mistakes.
  31. Avoiding personal responsibility by distracting others.
  32. Lying, being dishonest.
  33. Betraying a group that you should be loyal to.
  34. Supporting an individual or group whose legitimacy you question.
  35. Strictly promoting personal self-interest above the needs of the community.
  36. Ignoring civic participation duties.
  37. Failing to trust others and groups after they have trusted you.
  38. Ignoring community interests.
  39. Allowing others to transgress shared community norms.
  40. Ignoring others on a day-to-day basis.
  41. Not listening; interrupting, undermining.
  42. Failing to participate in group activities.
  43. Ignoring, discounting or undermining others’ attempts to contribute to group decision making.
  44. Dominating conversations, especially after being placed on notice.
  45. Constant negativity, challenges and skepticism.

Summary

Taboos are a critical dimension of a deeply held moral framework. Civility is based upon society agreeing that some values and their implications are “rock solid”. A few of the taboos above are mainly embraced by the left, but ALL 45 (!!!!!!) are embraced by a supermajority of citizens.

The “liberal” virtue of tolerance can be interpreted as THE value, an allegedly supreme value more important than all/any others. It must NOT be elevated to this dominant role. Tolerance is important but it is not controlling.

Hence, the underlying Civility values of human dignity, respect, acceptance, responsibility, public spiritedness, intentionality, interaction and positivity combine to form a successful common framework for all.

Taboos provide the negative (unacceptable) side of values. Civil people, irrespective of their political opinions, must reject these beliefs, opinions, actions and communications. TRUTH is the ultimate standard. We must all reject beliefs that conflict with the truth.

Avoiding/rejecting these taboos is not easy. We humans are still imperfect. We have to work and work and work to reach for the positive dimensions of the proposed subset of civility virtues and avoid the taboos.

A Pox on Both of Your Houses (9-4)

Ex 9-4: A Pox on Both of Your Houses

Discussion: Are both political parties equally unresponsive to the will of the country?

Political polarization has undermined the responsiveness of both parties to most Americans, greatly overemphasizing the views of the most extreme individuals.

Increased insecurity is a real situation.  Populist right-wing politicians have strongly leveraged this concern.

Immigration has been used to fan the fires for the last decade just as communism, terrorism, race and crime were used before.  ☹

Many national Republican politicians today reject the value of truth, objectivity and facts.  Civility is rejected as a left-wing trick or hoax.

These politicians embrace the lowest angels of our nature.  Victimhood is emphasized.

Extremism grows.

Extreme populism and the threat of dictatorship grow.

Unfortunately, the supposedly idealistic Democratic party has also been less than ideal.

It too encourages victimhood.

It tolerates extreme postmodernist rhetoric.

It indulges in righteousness.

It struggles to embrace non-governmental solutions to social problems.

It remains stuck as the polarized opposition.

It seems unable to proactively compromise or propose innovative solutions.

Reducing Political Polarization (9-3)

Ex 9-3: Reducing Political Polarization

Prioritization Exercise: (10 minutes):  Each person gets 2 votes per section.  Leader counts show of hands and summarizes top 3 by section.  Ask for a volunteer to share with one local politician.

Google AI March 29, 2026.  Reducing political polarization requires a combination of structural electoral reforms, intentional personal communication changes, and media literacy efforts. Key steps include adopting ranked-choice voting, bridging ideological divides through dialogue, limiting social media echo chambers, and condemning political violence, as suggested by researchers and civic leaders

Structural and Political Reforms

1. Implement Ranked-Choice Voting: Allows voters to rank candidates, reducing the “spoiler effect” and rewarding broader appeal.

2. Adopt Open Primaries: Allows independent voters to participate, reducing the power of extreme partisan wings.

3. Redistricting Reform: Use independent commissions to draw district lines to reduce gerrymandering.

4. Campaign Finance Reform: Reduce the influence of large donations to limit the need for divisive fundraising.

5. Expand Civic Education: Strengthen knowledge of democratic processes and history in schools.

6. Reform the Judiciary Appointment Process: Depoliticize the courts by reducing focus on political ideology.

7. Promote Non-partisan Local Elections: Focus on community-specific solutions rather than national party lines.

Media and Communication Changes

1. Debunk Misinformation: Actively correct false narratives to prevent the spread of conspiracy theories.

2. Support Local Journalism: Invest in local news that provides community context rather than national outrage.

3. Avoid Dehumanizing Language: Refrain from using metaphors comparing opponents to insects, animals, or diseases.

4. Curate Social Media Feeds: Intentionally follow voices with differing perspectives to break echo chambers.

5. Call Out Own “Tribe”: Criticize misinformation or extreme language used by one’s own political side.

6. Leverage “Unlikely Alliances”: Partner with ideological opposites on shared goals to foster trust.

Personal and Interpersonal Action

1. Practice Active Listening: Listen to understand the “why” behind a differing view, rather than preparing a rebuttal.

2. Focus on Shared Values: Identify common, non-political goals (like safety or community improvement) before discussing politics.

3. Engage in Perspective-Taking: Imagine the concerns of the other side to build empathy.

4. Do Not Treat Politics as Identity: Avoid making partisan affiliation the core of your personality.

5. Condemn Political Violence: Publicly disavow intimidation, violent rhetoric, and illegal acts regardless of political side.

6. Promote Civil Discourse in the Workplace: Set norms for respectful disagreement, focusing on diversity of thought.

7. Participate in Dialogue Projects: Join programs designed to bring together people from different political backgrounds, such as Braver Angels.

[1] https://www.gsb.stanford.edu/insights/10-tips-tackling-political-polarization-workplace-beyond

[2] https://www.americanprogress.org/article/practical-steps-to-build-strong-political-norms-and-stop-political-violence/

[3] https://college.unc.edu/2022/09/reduce-partisan-animosity-research/

[4] https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/edth.12587

[5] https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/how-social-media-hijacks-our-brains-fuels-political-robert-atkinson-6a23c

[6] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nhTxf0zpOPs

[7] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F_Z5Rx-XiE8

[8] https://harris.uchicago.edu/files/polarization-ideas-list.pdf

[9] https://siepr.stanford.edu/publications/policy-brief/want-reduce-polarization-congress-make-moderates-better-job-offer

[10] https://www.asc.upenn.edu/news-events/news/want-reduce-political-polarization-start-looking-beyond-politics

[11] https://carnegieendowment.org/posts/2020/07/7-ideas-to-reduce-political-polarization-and-save-america-from-itself

[12] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Il9QtM4tu0o

[13] https://democratic-erosion.org/2025/04/20/americas-political-polarization-problem/