Charles Taylor’s “Our Secular Age” – A Short Summary

Modern Philosophy Has Struggled

The history of modern Western intellectual life is not very comforting. We end up with Nietzsche’s superman which led to Nazism. We have Marx’s views which lead to totalitarian communist states. We have Freud’s view of mental repression and the impossibility of civilization. We have the next “scientific” view of psychology with Pavlov’s “stimulus and response”. We have Darwin’s principle of evolution which led to “social Darwinism” and its winner apologetics and eugenics. We have Darwin’s principle of evolution which led to scientific materialism, the rejection of any possible spiritual or non-material dimension to life. We have truly modern physics, chemistry, biology, mathematics and philosophy of science which undermine any possibility of a Newtonian certainty about science or nature, despite Einstein’s pursuit of a grand unifying theory and belief that “God doesn’t play dice with the universe”. We have existentialism which embraces the skeptics’ worst intuitions. We have professional philosophy which rejects metaphysics (fundamental nature, big picture approach) and adopts a purely analytical approach which reduces questions to precise language and logic. We have postmodernist philosophers who reject any structure other than the certainty that powerful forces will abuse their powers.

Modern History: Progress and Disintegration

Charles Taylor’s 2007 book “Our Secular Age” attempts to place all of this in perspective.

A “Secular Age” is one in which most individuals “know” that there may or may not be God, purpose, meaning or transcendence in life. A person’s life may be meaningless. The “next best” approach may only be to optimize the individual’s potential. There is “no exit”.

Doubt, skepticism and uncertainty are very powerful forces. Taylor argues that we all live based on implicit paradigms, beliefs, worldviews, assumptions, experiences, intuitions, etc. We are intuitive, social, historical beings. We absorb the beliefs of our culture. We don’t rationally evaluate and choose. About 4 million people are born in the US each year. 9,000 people earn philosophy degrees while 27,000 earn religion degrees annually. 1% of our citizens seriously pursue these questions.

In 1500, Western society was organic, with economics, politics, society and religion integrated into a well understood and accepted whole. Aristotle was “the philosopher”. St. Thomas Aquinas and the scholastics were applying logic to religious topics. History and tradition mattered. Morality and ethics were clearly defined and accepted. The spiritual dimension of nature and life was obvious. The personal Christian God was actively at work in the world. Priests and religious orders pursued perfection. Ordinary people supported the clergy and lived adequate Christian lives.

Modernity changed the Christian church. Luther elevated the role of the individual’s relationship with God, unmediated by clergy, in their local language. Each Church had to manage local politics to survive. Deism evolved as a scientific/rational form of religion.

The roles of economics, politics, society and religion were separated from each other. Social institutions evolved and learned to stand alone. Education, commerce and travel became more important.

Science became a driving force in understanding and controlling nature. It became commercially and politically important.

Individualistic philosophies developed. The “social contract” theory of politics was adopted and implemented.

Secular institutions were defined and provided services that replaced the role of the Church.

Today

We live in a world of skepticism, fear/insecurity, political polarization, subjectivity, tolerance, productivity, consumption, identity, searching, and striving.

The dominant approach of the professional class is deemed “the therapeutic society”. The individual reigns supreme. The individual is created to pursue his destiny, capabilities, potential or goal. The goal of the individual is to find/define and pursue this potential. Creativity, self-expression and authenticity are highly valued.

Taylor says that individuals seeking to pursue their capabilities still need feedback from their communities to validate their choices and results. They attempt to be radically independent but cannot do so.

There is a “tipping point” phenomenon at work. As science/technology became more insightful/effective, it became the default explanation for everything. In 1802 the mathematician Laplace replied to Napoleon’s question about the role of God in his latest book, “I have no need for that hypothesis”. The myth of the brave/heroic scientist/thinker overcoming social conventions and religious authorities was created and effectively employed. The false opposition of “science versus religion” was promoted.

The reduction in church attendance, membership and participation that occurred in Western countries along with education, urbanization and economic growth was deemed the “secularization hypothesis”: individuals automatically lost religion as civilization developed.

Our society promotes personal freedom, liberty and individual choice as the highest values. Our politicians and leaders encourage individualism. Economic production, success and consumption are elevated. The “free market” system becomes the model for social choices. Personal choices without limits are promoted. Government or social restrictions on individual choices are considered intrusions into sacred personal spaces.

Analysis and Hope

Taylor outlines the history of how our default worldview has changed. There has been continued growth and success of “instrumental logic” in science/technology and business/economics. The power of efficient causes alone in shaping and improving material well-being and possibilities is obvious. Individualism has grown to become a new God, with identity becoming all important. The possibility of “science” and “logic” explaining more and more and more has grown.

Taylor argues that we have assumed away the spiritual dimension of life. The progress of science has no bearing on important religious or philosophical questions. What is the meaning of life? Where did the world come from? Does the world have a purpose? How do scientific laws really work? How do I live a good life? How do I live in community? What is a good form of government? Why am I conscious? Why can I comprehend how the world works? What is beauty? What is religious feeling? Where does love come from?

Taylor argues that the scientific revolution lured us into believing that there are answers like Newton’s law of gravity and Euclid’s proofs of geometry that apply to all questions. We “rationalized” Christianity to make it “respectable”, creating Deism, but more importantly assuming that scientific rationality and logical proof is the only valid measure of success. Christian apologists sought to “prove” God and religious teachings. Religious leaders sought to modernize religion, stripping it of “irrational” content, deconstructing its content, evaluating it through literary and historical analysis, proving its merit through its application to social needs. Taylor says that this was a centuries long diversion.

Taylor highlights the failure of science and philosophy to be “fully rationalized”. Modern science cannot be reduced to a simplistic logical system beginning with a few assumptions and logically developing all results. Science is rational but not logically bullet-proof. It includes many features that are not “logical”. Science at very small and very large scales is strange and mysterious. Scientific disciplines use different methods and are sometimes incompatible. Emergent systems can be described but not in classic logical terms. Philosophy is used to analyze and deconstruct but it has failed to construct better answers.

Taylor and his popularizer, James K.A. Smith, emphasize that the spiritual dimension continues to “intrude” into everyday life for believers, skeptics, agnostics and atheists. Despite the progress of science, the secularization of society and the powerful influence of a “secular age” background worldview, spiritual experiences, ideas, thoughts, insights, longings, perceptions and behaviors don’t “go away”. They seem to be an intrinsic part of human life.

Like many modern Christian apologists, Taylor recommends that we reject the scientific method, logical proof, and Occam’s razor reductionist bias as the measure of religious/philosophical ideas, systems, processes, experiences and communities. He proposes that we consider “all available evidence”. What theory best matches the evidence? No theory is objectively true or fully comprehensive. Theories provide insights and answers to both common and difficult religious/philosophical questions. They are imperfect. Philosophical criticism indicates that there are trade-offs and shortcomings in all such systems. Taylor notes that it is only with the success of the scientific revolution that we have the audacity to expect to understand and explain everything about the universe including our religious/philosophical questions.

For many, Taylor’s conclusions seem like lukewarm apologetics. There is no certainty. We can’t trust science. We experience religion, so it must exist.

Taylor and his supporters argue that he is incorporating the best of human history and thought into his analysis and framework. We mistakenly believed that we could find reductionist answers to our questions. After 500 years of truly amazing scientific and economic progress we now know that this is impossible or very unlikely. We still have our religious/philosophical questions and experiences. They won’t go away. As with C.S. Lewis, he defines these explanations as myths or stories using human tools to provide insights into systems beyond our direct comprehension. The difference is that Christianity is a “true myth”.

We can choose to pursue a rational, reductionist, materialistic, non-spiritual solution. We can embrace a fully defined, literalist religious faith. Or, we can engage with a mysterious Christianity that provides essential answers that seem imperfect according to our modern conceptions of logic and rationality.

Exodus 3:14 New International Version

God said to Moses, “I am who I am. This is what you are to say to the Israelites: ‘I am has sent me to you.’”

We are not promised a “full explanation”.

How (NOT) to be Secular: Reading Charles Taylor – Good News

What’s the Root Cause of Our Problems?: Our Secular Age – Good News

#1 Carmel is a Self-fulfilling Prophecy

National Awards

Why Carmel, Indiana, Is the Best Place to Live in 2026-2027 | Real Estate | U.S. News

City Wide Awards | Carmel, IN

Carmel, Indiana is a 46 square mile city of 105,000 people a dozen miles north of downtown Indianapolis.

As 28-year mayor Jim Brainerd once quipped, “We don’t have mountains, valleys or an ocean, but neither does Paris”. How could an Indiana city create such a natural reputation for success?

James Brainard – Wikipedia

Common Advantages

Carmel is a suburb of Indianapolis, so it has benefitted from suburban growth since the 1950’s.

Indianapolis, like Columbus, Nashville, and Minneapolis, has been a heartland growth winner.

Indiana is a low cost of living location, benefitting from being the “Crossroads of America”.

Indiana is a low tax and low government services state, with expectations that government needs are best addressed at the lowest possible level.

Indianapolis has no natural geographical constraints to growth or limits that raise the cost of living. The Northwest Territory’s 6×6 mile townships expand in all directions.

Most metro areas have a preferred direction for wealth and growth. Indianapolis chose to develop straight north along Meridian Street across the Marion County border into Carmel by the 1950’s.

This branding and “first mover” advantage is common among America’s 50 large metro areas. Carmel benefitted from competitors in NW Zionsville limiting development to preserve the small village character, NE Geist having limited lakefront property and NNE Fishers limited main highway access.

History | Carmel, IN

Carmel’s Quaker Roots and Early Settlers: A Historical Perspective

Local History – Carmel Clay History Museum

A BRIEF HISTORY OF CARMEL, INDIANA

Carmel – Encyclopedia of Indianapolis

Good Political Choices

While Indiana today is considered a deeply red state, historically it was more purple, with heavy manufacturing/worker counties balanced by rural/farming counties. Indianapolis was a local government innovator, creating county wide Unigov in 1970 to combine the city and county, preserving Republican dominance. Indianapolis has elected centrist mayors for 6 decades: Lugar, Hudnut, Goldsmith, Peterson, Ballard and Hogsett.

List of mayors of Indianapolis – Wikipedia

Carmel became a city in 1976. Many of these elected officials have served the community for 50 years!

Carmel City Council celebrates 50th anniversary of its first meeting 

Jim Brainerd served as mayor from 1996-2024 as a centrist/practical Republican in the Governor Daniels mode, focusing on local economic issues and needs, without being distracted by national wedge issues.

Mitch Daniels – Wikipedia

Carmeltopia

Carmel understood the power of zoning and used this to adopt overlay zones to guide denser and higher quality development in the Meridian corridor, Range Line Road, Arts & Design District and Midtown areas. Politicians understood that Carmel was a valuable place for developers and set limits to ensure that the community would also benefit from growth.

Mayor Brainerd used the powers of the Indiana strong-mayor system to create tax increment finance (TIF) districts to capture the future property tax values of areas to allow for leveraged government investments in infrastructure.

A less taxing approach?: Carmel embraces benefits of TIF for major redevelopment efforts | Aim

Carmel Redevelopment Commission | Carmel, IN

Mayor Brainerd and the city council also allowed the city to borrow at advantageous interest rates to finance other investments to promote the city’s growth.

Carmel’s Billion-Dollar Bet

Debunking the sensationalism of Carmel’s debt

Independent review of Carmel’s debt raises no red flags

Like many governments, Carmel offered tax incentives to attract corporate developments.

Mayor Brainerd found that roundabouts were a local, traffic, aesthetic, environmental, safety, time, and cost winner. He prodded the city the install 150 roundabouts.

Mayor Brainerd incorporated a small investment into the arts and not-for-profits into the annual budgeting cycle. Local citizens applauded.

Mayor Brainerd chose to invest in community art, statues downtown and in the roundabouts. Again, the community applauded.

Roundabout Art – Carmel Roundabouts

Roundabout Art Map

City unveils ‘Homage to Hoagy’ sculpture | Allied Solutions Center for the Performing Arts

Carmel Style Takes Flight

Beacon Bloom sculpture welcomes motorists to Carmel

Carmel unveils 2026 arts grants recipients

How roundabouts transformed Carmel | CNU

Carmel Indiana Roundabouts: Case Studies: ERIT: Environmental Resilience Institute: Indiana University

People Committed to Excellence

Journalistic histories emphasize the role of Mayor Brainerd in “transforming” the sleepy suburb into a new urbanist “edge city” and nationally recognized place to live. Mayor Brainerd deserves credit as a visionary and catalytic leader who delivered the goods for 3 decades. Yet the Carmel story begins before him and continues today. It relies upon political, government, community and volunteer leaders who believed that Carmel could deliver the highest possible quality of life for its residents and neighbors. I point to a few representative leaders who deserve credit.

Mayor Brainerd, 1996-2024

Meet the Mayor Who Totally Transformed His City

James Brainard – Wikipedia

Mayor Jane Reiman, 1980-87, member of initial 1976 city council.

Foundation builder: Carmel’s first two-term mayor reflects on key events that helped shape

Dave Coots, member of initial 1976 city council, practicing law in Carmel 50 years later.

Attorneys emphasize planning early for smoother retirement – The Indiana Lawyer

James Garretson, Carmel teacher and member of initial 1976 city council, still serving on appointed boards.

Staff Directory • James D. Garretson

Fred Swift, county government executive and member of initial 1976 city council, still serving on appointed boards.

Staff Directory • Fred Swift

Gail Bardach, city and county judge, 1992-2024.

Retiring Hamilton County judge reflects on career 

Christine Altman, Hamilton County Commissioner, representing Carmel 2003 – .

Christine Altman Biography | Hamilton County, IN

Steve Dillinger, Hamilton County Commissioner, 1989 – .

Steve Dillinger Biography | Hamilton County, IN

Mark Heirbrandt, Hamilton County Commissioner, 2013 – .

Mark Heirbrandt Biography | Hamilton County, IN

Steve Holt, Hamilton County Commissioner, 1989 – 2012.

Steve Holt – Upper Captiva Fire

Brenda Myers, Hamilton County Tourism director, 2005 – 2024.

More than a job: Retiring Hamilton County Tourism CEO leaves legacy leadership

John Hensel, Clay Township Trustee, 20 years.

Clay Township Hamilton County – Clay Township Trustee

Sue Finkam, City council 2012-23, mayor 2024 – .

About | Sue Finkam for Carmel Mayor

Kevin “Woody” Rider, council 2008 – 22.

Carmel’s longest-serving city councilor launches mayoral campaign

Ron Carter, council 1996 – 2019.

Center Green becomes Carter’s Green in honor of city councilor

Jeff Worrell, council 2016 – .

Jeff 4 Carmel

Mark Westermeier, parks director, 2003 – 18.

Q&A with Mark Westermeier | Carmel Clay Parks & Recreation

“West Commons” Renamed to “Westermeier Commons” to Honor Director

Nancy Heck, Director of Community Relations and Economic Development, 1998-2024.

Nancy Heck | LinkedIn

One ‘Heck’ of a show

John Duffy, Utilities Director, 1992 – 2025

TRIBUTE TO JOHN DUFFY – Carmel Green Initiative

Judy Hagan, parks founder and Clay Township Trustee

Q&A with Sue Dillon + Judy Hagan | Carmel Clay Parks & Recreation

Carmel Clay Historical Society to remember Carmelot park

Sue Dillon, parks founder and Citizens for Greenspace founder.

SUE DILLON – Carmel Clay Parks & Recreation

Wendy Phillips, library director, 2000 – 15.

Carmel Library director to step down in June

Mo Merhoff, chamber of commerce director, 2000 – 2020.

Mo Merhoff retires – LarryInFishers

Merging Mountains, Two Chambers at a Time – Towne Post Network – Local Business Directory

Volunteer leaders recognized annually by Carmel Rotary Club

Outstanding Service Award | Carmel Rotary

Safety

Carmel has invested resources in making it a safe city. School safety officers requiring a separately approved levy. Formal quality standards for police and fire departments. County level emergency preparedness investments.

Accreditation | Carmel, IN

Accreditation | Carmel, IN

Carmel School District Puts State’s First $40M Safety Referendum On Ballot

Hamilton County starting work on new 911 and emergency operations center in July

$85 million public safety center to be built in Hamilton County | Fox 59

Unified response: New facilities to enhance public safety operations in Hamilton County

Already low, criminal activities further decline in Carmel • Carmel, IN

Schools

Carmel public schools are consistently rated among the best in Indiana. Critics say this reflects the wealthy socioeconomic status of the community. “The proof is in the pudding”.

Carmel Clay Schools – Indiana – Niche

Carmel has 50+ National Merit Semifinalists each year, more than 8 states.

District News – Carmel Clay Schools

Our Hamilton County: More National Merit Scholars than 13 States – Good News

Nearby Guerin Catholic HS attracts Carmel students to its highly rated programs.

Guerin Catholic High School | 317-582-0120

University HS was established in Carmel by a group of community leaders in 1998, serving the needs of high potential students.

Mission, History, & Facts – University High School

Indiana schools are mainly funded through a statewide formula. Indiana property taxes are capped as a percentage of value. Carmel residents have chosen since 2010 to approve property tax levies to exceed the formula and the standard maximums. Recent state tax, budget and formula changes are driving new requests.

(20+) Operating Referendum History: The first CCS… – Carmel Clay Schools | Facebook

Carmel Clay Schools bracing for greater than expected financial loss from property tax law 

Carmel library has moved twice, expanded its main location and added a branch location. Carmel library has been nationally ranked for its activity, circulation, programs and financial investments.

Carmel Clay Public Library – Wikipedia

Carmel Clay Public Library – RATIO

Our Hamilton County: Busy Public Libraries – Good News

Carmel PTOs are strong, investing in students through financial and volunteer support. Carmel HS organizations enjoy similar support.

how strong are carmel indiana ptos – Google Search

Diversity

Carmel aspires to be a diverse community. It has been a primary corporate transfer and health care professional destination, welcoming non-Hoosiers and preparing residents and students for national and global roles.

Carmel has more economic diversity than some expect, with many middle-class and young adult neighborhoods south of 116th Street and within the boundaries of Keystone Parkway and Meridian/US 31.

Home Place – Encyclopedia of Indianapolis

Carmel development to bring parking garage, apartments to downtown

Historical Facts about Woodland Springs — Woodland Springs, Inc – Carmel, Indiana

Carmel has been an active sister cities participant and welcomed global cultures.

Sister Cities | Carmel, IN

Chinese Mooncake Festival | Carmel, IN

Another individual driving progress.

Cultivation and Contribution – Carmel – Towne Post Network – Local Business Directory

Kawachinagano Japanese Garden: A Carmel Hidden Gem

Women have played a leading role in Carmel’s success.

Carmel’s 3 female mayors share stories at historical society’s spring tea

She L.E.A.D.S. Conference | Hosted by Carmel Mayor Sue Finkam

History making all female leadership team

Our Hamilton County: Women Hold 40% of Elected Public Offices – Good News

Quite Religious

Historically.

Back in the day: White Chapel among county’s oldest religious structures

Carmel Friends Church 1 – Carmel Friends Church

quaker history carmel indiana – Google Search

Our Hamilton County: Diverse Religious Traditions – Good News

Mainline Protestant.

Orchard Park Presbyterian Church – Welcome, we’re glad you’re here!

St. Christopher’s Episcopal Church – Embracing God’s Expansive Lov

Home

Open and Affirming Church in Carmel, Indiana -St. Peters UCC | St. Peter’s UCC Carmel

St. Mark’s United Methodist Church of Carmel Indiana Inc. – Home

Carmel – Cornerstone Lutheran Church

King of Glory Lutheran Church – Home

Welcoming Disciples of Christ Church in Carmel | Carmel Christian Church

Catholic churches.

St. Elizabeth Seton Catholic Church | Carmel, Indiana

Our Lady of Mount Carmel Catholic Church | Carmel, IN

St. Maria Goretti – Westfield, IN

Nondenominational Churches.

Campus Details | Northview Church

Community & Worship Services | Grace Church Noblesville

Mercy Road Church – Carmel | Carmel: Live Boldly. Love Deeply. Carmel, Indiana | Carmel, IN

Location Detail | Traders Point Christian Church

World religions.

Holy Trinity Greek Orthodox Church, Carmel, United States – World Orthodox Directory

Congregation Beth Shalom

Carmel breaks ground on 1st mosque | wthr.com

Indianapolis Indiana Temple | ChurchofJesusChristTemples.org

Economic Development

Density is good. Commercial property tax base is good. Employers are good. These 3 statements seem trivial and obvious, but many “professional class” suburbs reject them, wishing to live in an idyllic rural paradise. Carmel has always embraced manufacturing, offices, retail, and apartments.

The Meridian Corridor overlay district promoted dense development and prevented strip malls. The Range Line Road overlay district required dense and multi-use development. The early overall zoning plan encouraged economic development in the central 8 square miles of the city, within the 46 square mile footprint.

Carmel employed TIF districts and public borrowing to attract investors to its central city developments.

It employed the usual tax abatement tools to encourage major corporations to locate within Carmel.

Midcontinent Independent System Operator – Wikipedia

New Corporate Headquarters in Midtown | Allied Solutions | Allied Solutions | B2B Financial Services | Risk Management | Insurance

history of conseco in carmel indiana – Google Search

Republic Airways’ New Campus Takes Indiana’s Largest Airline to New Heights | Republic Airways

Allegion | Creating a Safer and More Accessible World

ADESA

enVista | Supply Chain and Enterprise Technology Consulting

Underground Utility Location and Damage Prevention | USIC

CNO Financial Group

IU Health North Hospital – Carmel | IU Health

Luxury Home Builder Central Indiana | Custom, Curated & Townhomes | Old Town Design Group

Corporate Website | Delta Faucet Company

Home – Zotec Partners

Belden

Sun King Brewery, Carmel, IN — Sun King Brewery

CSBN | Carmel, IN

OneZone Chamber – Org Name

A Virtuous Growth Cycle

By decade, Carmel’s population grew from 1950 to 2026 in thousands as 2, 10, 20, 33, 43, 65, 83, 99, 105. 4 decades of 10,000 population growth followed by 4 decades of 15,000 population growth. Growth may slam shut in 2030-2035. Growth provides advantages to utilities, realtors, developers, construction firms, media, and governments.

Township Census Counts: STATS Indiana

Indianapolis’ Population is Booming. Savvy Investors are Taking Note. – T&H Realty Services

Good News: Metro Indy is a Midwest Jobs Leader, 1990-22 – Good News

Community Events

Lacking mountains or oceans, the community has developed events for every month of the year to celebrate. Many events were created, grown and managed by small groups of individuals with background support from the city government.

CarmelFest: The festival has come a long way since the days of the stilt walker

CarmelFest | Carmel Rotary

Celebrating 25 Years of the Carmel Farmers Market

Carmel Farmers Market – Winter

How authentic German culture made Carmel’s Christkindmarkt #1 yet again

Carmel Christkindlmarkt | Authentic German Christmas Market Indiana

The Ice at Carter Green

carmel gazebo concerts history – Google Search

Concert Schedule – Summer Family Concert Series at the Gazebo

carmel international arts festival history – Google Search

Carmel International Arts Festival – The Arts Come Alive!

carmel porchfest history – Google Search

About — Carmel Porchfest

Events — Carmel Porchfest

Oktoberfest | Carmel, IN

Japan SpringFest | Carmel, IN

Chinese Mooncake Festival | Carmel, IN

City of Carmel’s annual Memorial Day Ceremony is May 22 • Carmel, IN

HOME | Carmel Jazz Fest

Parade | Celebrate Patriotism – Join the Parade — CarmelFest

Homecoming Week!!! – CHTV

Arbor Day | Carmel, IN

carmel indiana artomobilia history – Google Search

ARTOMOBILIA | Overview 2026

Carmel Food Truck Fridays

Cool Creek Concert Series | Hamilton County, IN

The Center Celebration 2026 presented by Ice Miller | Allied Solutions Center for the Performing Arts

Carmel Veterans Day Ceremony set for Friday

Calendar • Martin Luther King Jr. Commemoration Ceremony

Carmel Pride

Carmel on Canvas – Carmel Arts & Design District

Holiday home tour to feature Shull designs

Calendar • Concerts in the Centerpiece

Home | Carmel Marathon

Public Safety Day | Carmel, IN

RAIN ON MAIN – Home

Americana on Main | Carmel, IN

Festival of Ice | Carmel, IN

Bike Carmel Events | Carmel, IN

Placemaking

Carmel has leveraged its existing natural neighborhoods to develop a sense of place. Real estate developers have built traditional 50-300 home subdevelopments and filled in spaces. The city focused on the central city neighborhoods to define the “arts & design district” and midtown. The parks district has built and enhanced regional and neighborhood assets.

CNAN | Carmel, IN

Kawachinagano Japanese Garden – Carmel Clay Parks & Recreation

The Palladium at the Center for the Performing Arts – Wikipedia

Midtown Plaza Carmel – A new, vibrant revitalization of Carmel’s old industrial area

Home – Carmel Arts & Design District

The Emerging New Aspirational Suburb | Newgeography.com

Carmel: Leadership in Action, Part Two – Aaron M. Renn

Carmel: Leadership in Action, Part One – Aaron M. Renn

Indiana’s Monon Trail – Rails to Trails Conservancy | Rails to Trails Conservancy

The Transformation of the Monon Trail

Reimagining Flowing Well Park | Carmel Clay Parks & Recreation

96th Street Roundabout Art | Carmel, IN

This is Home Place | Yard & Company

The Village of WestClay

Old Town Design Group begins several projects throughout Carmel

Central Park | SmithGroup

Carmel Clay Central Park | Landscape Performance Series

Coxhall Gardens History | Hamilton County, IN

Explore West Park in Carmel: Family-Friendly Fun | WE LIKE INDY

Carmel’s Quaker Roots and Early Settlers: A Historical Perspective

Home – Carmel Clay History Museum

Woodys Library Restaurant – Home

West Park, Carmel Clay Parks & Recreation | SmithGroup

A Defining Moment | Carmel Clay Parks & Recreation

On the horizon: Major redevelopment announcements, parks improvements expected in 2026

Bold corridor attracts investment | CNU

A Bridge to Nature – Carmel Clay Parks & Recreation

Profile – Carmel Clay Schools

Carmel & Clay Center Elementary Schools – CSO

Carmel Clay Public Library – RATIO

Indiana Art: Carmel roundabout artwork has a story behind it

Midtown | Carmel, IN

About – Carmel Clay Schools

Strong Towns Langley – Carmel: Transforming a Typical Suburb

REA

Carmel completes its City Center | CNU

Carmel’s Monon Boulevard wins Community Placemaking Award

Carmel seeking public’s assistance in new neighborhood design

A City Arises from Sprawl: Carmel, Indiana – International Making Cities Livable

This Is the Best Designed Suburb in America – YouTube

Carmel, Indiana Case Study | North Star Place Branding

Why Carmel IN Is One of the Best Places to Live Near Indianapolis

Carmel, Indiana – Hamilton County – Business View Magazine

Column: Placemaking brings us together

Investing in the Future: Children and Youth

See Schools section above.

Carmel Clay Historical Society to remember Carmelot park

carmel indiana boy scouts history – Google Search

Book traces Carmel Dads’ Club roots

Carmel Dads’ Club: Spirit of a Community | PBS

Front Page 2026 – Carmel Icehounds

Marching Band – Carmel Bands

Carmel High School band finishes second at BOA Super Regional

history of carmel swim club – Google Search

How Dominant Is the Carmel High School Girls Team?

State Champions crowned in Girls Swimming & Diving | Indiana High School Athletic Association

Carmel’s Improbable 1977 Basketball State Championship – Towne Post Network – Local Business Directory

Carmel Greyhounds win 200th state championship – Indianapolis News | Indiana Weather | Indiana Traffic | WISH-TV |

Carmel Mayor’s Youth Council | Carmel, IN

PTOs & Greyhound Council – Carmel Clay Schools

Chuck Koeppen | Indiana High School Athletic Association

Former Carmel High School coach Koeppen wraps up legendary head coaching career 

IHSAA girls soccer: Carmel, coach Frank Dixon part ways

Kevin Wright | Carmel High School Football

Droplight Grand Park Sports Campus | Westfield, Indiana

Arts & Entertainment

See Community Events.

New Center Presents season include tribute acts, spoken word series

Songbook Academy in Concert | Allied Solutions Center for the Performing Arts

Tickets & Events | Indianapolis Symphony Orchestra

Home – Carmel Symphony Orchestra

Carmel International Arts Festival – The Arts Come Alive!

Home – Carmel Arts & Design District

Upcoming Programs & Events – Carmel Public Library Foundation

The Great American Songbook Foundation

RAIN ON MAIN – Home

Carmel on Canvas – Carmel Arts & Design District

Carmel Theatre – The Cat

Actors Theatre of Indiana – live. professional. theatre.

HOME – Carmel Community Players

HOME | Carmel Jazz Fest

Carmel Porchfest

Oktoberfest | Carmel, IN

Restaurants with Live Entertainment | Feinstein’s Carmel IN

Palladiscope | Carmel, IN

Public Art & Sculptures – Carmel Arts & Design District

Final life-like sculpture unveiled in Carmel. Here’s how much they cost

Indiana Art: Carmel roundabout artwork has a story behind it

CARMEL BANDS – Carmel Bands

Concert Schedule – Summer Family Concert Series at the Gazebo

Serving the Community

See “people” and “quite religious” above. Individuals and organizations invest in the community.

News Release: Carmel Fire Department awarded International Accreditation status for 3rd time

carmel range line pioneer award – Google Search

carmel pillar of the community award – Google Search

Outstanding Service Award | Carmel Rotary

History | Carmel Rotary

History — Carmel Lions Club

Kiwanis Club of Carmel

PTOs & Greyhound Council – Carmel Clay Schools

Carmel Masonic Lodge #421 – Making Good Men Better in Carmel, Indiana Since 1870

Home – Carmel Youth Assistance Program

Accreditation | Carmel, IN

Carmel Mayor’s Youth Council | Carmel, IN

Volunteer With Us | Carmel Clay Parks & Recreation

Teen Volunteer Corps – Carmel Clay Public Library

Home – Hamilton County Community Foundation

Mission CUMC food pantry

Merciful HELP Center – Carmel, IN

Home – Meals on Wheels Hamilton County

Janus Developmental Services

PrimeLife Enrichment – Senior Center for Hamilton County

Good Samaritan Network of Hamilton County,Inc.

HOME | Familypromisehamcoin

Home | Prevail

Home | Riverview Health

Delbert L. Waugh Post 10003

American Legion Carmel Post 155

HCMGA – INDIANA – Hamilton County Master Gardeners Association, Indiana – Helping Others Grow

Carmel HS Dance Marathon celebrated on ‘The Kelly Clarkson Show’ | wthr.com

Making Connections: Hamilton County Community Foundation focuses support on nonprofits, services

Foundation Home – Carmel Clay Schools

Foundation – Carmel Clay Public Library

Welcome to The Humane Society for Hamilton County

Trinity Free Clinic

Summary

Carmel began with advantages as a growing suburb north of Indianapolis’s historic Meridian-Kessler neighborhood. Political leaders made wise decisions for several decades. Carmel’s measures of success have gained national recognition. However, the character of the community and quality of life is driven by the personal responsibility that citizens take for themselves and their neighbors as symbolized by the moms who built the first park and the dads who started the youth athletics programs.

Carmel Clay Historical Society to remember Carmelot park

Our History Carmel Dads Club.

Civility “in a Box” (Summarized)

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Civility is:

  1. A set of behaviors that recognize differences and build mutual respect.
  2. A tool to deliver productive results through Civil discourse.
  3. Comprised of self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship management, communications, growth and problem-solving skills and behaviors.
  4. A habit.
  5. A choice (intentional).
  6. Based on the universal values of human dignity, respect, acceptance, responsibility, constructiveness, intentionality and public-spiritedness.
  7. A moral system but not a replacement for religious, philosophical or political systems.
  8. Viral; a virtuous/vicious cycle.
  9. Nonpartisan.
  10. Ecumenical.
  11. Teachable.
  12. A blend of thinking, feeling and doing.
  13. A social norm.
  14. Consistent with human nature.
  15. Actionable.
  16. An aspirational ideal, never fully achieved.
  17. A builder of trust, community, common good and institutions.
  18. A self-maintaining social system.
  19. Supported by world religions and secular humanism.
  20. Informed by modern social science.
  21. Practiced in personal, work, play, church, sports, media, union, culture, service, government and political environments.
  22. Required for democracy.
  23. Inspired by self-interest, situations, personality, identity, civic duty, patriotic duty, cultural duty, religious duty and philosophical duty.
  24. NOT too simple, complex, moderate, extreme, soft, hard, liberal or conservative.
  25. A solution to our challenges of political polarization, selfish media, radical individualism, limits of human nature, skepticism, our secular age, imperfect myths and insecurity.

Basis for the Civility Values

Basis for Selecting the 7 Civility Values

Context

Civility is based upon 7 values: human dignity, respect, acceptance, responsibility, constructiveness, intentionality and public-spiritedness.  These values have been identified as the foundation of Civility because they work together with the 7 Civility behaviors to deliver results while recognizing differences and building mutual respect through civil discourse.

Deliver Results

  1. The values strongly drive the 7 sets of behaviors.
  2. The values and behaviors produce the desired results.
  3. Society is more productive.
  4. Civility behaviors become habits, valuable assets.
  5. People are engaged, their capabilities employed.
  6. Creative and cooperative solutions are generated.

Build Relations

  • Build communications skills.
  • Provides a safe environment which encourages interactions.
  • Creates a positive climate and expectations.
  •  Promotes positive expectations and attitudes.
  • Reduces social tensions and anxiety.
  • Promotes trust in people, groups and institutions.
  • Builds a sense of teamwork, community and common purpose.

Adequate

  • Addresses real differences of experiences, interests, power and views.

Sustainable

  1. Encourages consideration of long-term consequences.
  2. Emphasizes the nature of repeated conversations and negotiations.
  3. Inserts the common good as a meaningful objective and factor to consider.
  4. Invests in the process.
  5. Supports the needs of all participants.

Reduce Costs

  • Minimizes lost participation, ideas, solutions, compromises.
  • Reduces overall communications, legal and transaction costs.
  • Discourages destructive discourse, threats and behaviors.
  • Avoid and resolve conflicts.

Broadly Supported

  • Historically used by many cultures and traditions.
  • Consistent with lists of common moral values.
  • Commonly described by popular and academic writers.
  • Generally supported by the average person.
  • Nonpartisan.
  • Ecumenical, not promoting one religion or denomination.

Broadly Applied

  • Values and behaviors in family, neighborhood, work, play, church and civic situations.

Support Democracy

  • Provide moral/community basis for political participation, engagement, voting, funding, service, and legal compliance.

Actionable

  • Mutually consistent, supportive, connected values and behaviors.
  • Limited set of values with clear definitions and complementary taboos.
  • Consistent with human nature, even if requiring education and moral effort.
  • Values and behaviors can be taught, practiced and improved.
  • Consistent with the findings of modern social sciences.

Powerful

  • Values are deeply felt, motivating their adoption, cultivation and application.
  • Consistent with the virtuous cycle of reinforcement through social interactions.
  • Intuitive definition and connection with practical and moral life.
  • Connected with the religious and philosophical vertical dimension of life.
  • Capable of being supported as a social norm.

7 Civility Values – Good News

The 7 Civility Values are Supported by World Religions – Good News

Christianity Supports the 7 Civility Values – Good News

Civility is Really About 7 Behaviors – Good News

Vertical Dimension of Life Supports Civility

The Vertical Dimension of Experience Supports the Civility Values

All people experience the universe as something much larger, more complex, abstract and mysterious than their direct, personal lives.  They try to make sense of the whole and determine their place and meaning.  They sense that there are things beyond the materialistic human scale experience.  They feel separation and long for a stronger connection with the whole.  They experience parts of the larger universe which they cannot fully capture.  Love, beauty, change, consciousness, art, music, science, intuitions, mysteries, miracles, myths, stories, awe, infinity, eternity, transcendence, dimensions, time, responsibility, sacred, pure, form, structure, number and mathematics all point to something “more”.

Some identify and experience God, gods, even a personal God.  Others see structure, laws, nature, spirits or forces.

The key is the separation of the individual from the universe and the experienced relationship.  The individual is not alone.  He is connected to the source.  He has neighbors who seem to be in the same situation.  He experiences vertical and horizontal relationships. 

The source has provided life to all men.  They are in the same position.  They deserve respect.

Men understand something of the universe.  They connect with the source.  They appreciate the structure.  They are self-aware.  They exist.  Human dignity makes sense.

Men are not the center of the universe.  There are many creatures.  There are many other men.  Variety is everywhere.  Men and women differ.  Children and relatives differ.  Men experience growth, development and change.  They expect change and diversity.

Men experience freedom of choice.  They appreciate and defend this natural liberty.  They believe they have “free will”.  They seem to have a consistent “self” to speak with.  They have logical capabilities.  They can plan and execute.

Men experience logical yes and no.  They see opposites.  They sense “right and wrong”. They see and punish unfairness.  They are socialized by experience, parents and neighbors.  They live in a moral universe.  Accountability arises from this environment.

Men live in communities.  They are subject to the seasons, nature, disease, invaders and the weather.  Their lives and fates are intertwined.  They produce, learn, play and worship together.  They are interdependent.  They benefit from trade.  Communities transmit culture, history and myths.  The public good is self-evident in most human communities.

Man exists.  He is self-aware.  He experiences pleasure and pain.  Nature provides resources.  He experiences joy and sorrow.  He manages many fears and threats.  Yet, he sings and celebrates.  He benefits from a positive world view.

In each case, men have natural experiences, vertically connected with nature, the universe, the source of being.  This connection provides meaning, certainty, hope and safety.  These values are natural values, that can be supported without making specific religious, scientific or philosophical claims.

How the Vertical Dimension Supports Civility:  Google AI – April 8, 2026

The vertical dimension of life—often defined as one’s connection to a higher power, transcendent values, or a “higher self”—is deeply connected to civility, as it serves as an internal, ethical anchor that encourages treating others with respect, dignity, and care. While horizontal actions deal with navigating daily, material life, the vertical dimension focuses on inner transformation and accountability to a standard higher than oneself, which is often crucial for fostering public-mindedness and genuine connection with others.

• Foundation for Universal Respect: A vertical orientation provides a basis for recognizing that all individuals possess innate worth and dignity, independent of their social standing or whether one “likes” them. This “internal disposition of the heart” encourages respect for the “other,” ensuring individuals treat people as moral equals.

• Transcending Self-Interest: The vertical dimension cultivates a sense of awe and gratitude (an awe-based approach to the Divine or the cosmos) which encourages us to look beyond our own immediate interests and ego. This shift in consciousness moves people from a “me” focus to an “eco” or “us” focus, which is essential for community building and civility.

• Ethical Accountability: It brings a deeper awareness of the impact of one’s actions on others and fosters responsibility, self-awareness, and self-restraint. This often manifests as a “vertical” obligation to follow moral laws that transcend personal desires, leading to more respectful interaction.

• Disagreement Resolution: Authentic civility, rooted in this dimension, allows individuals to respectfully handle disagreements and navigate differences in public conversation rather than simply avoiding conflict.

Vertical vs. Horizontal Dimensions of Life

• Horizontal Dimension: Refers to the visible, life-in-time, material aspects of existence, where one tries to improve circumstances or “fix” things. It can sometimes lead to superficial politeness or a “socially controlled” adherence to norms rather than genuine care.

• Vertical Dimension: Focuses on the “Being” or the internal, non-physical plane of life, which brings peace and allows for better navigating of the horizontal plane.

In summary, the vertical dimension acts as the “inner soil” that nourishes civic behavior (public-mindedness), ensuring that interactions with others are grounded in deeper, shared principles of respect rather than just superficial politeness.  

Christianity Supports the 7 Civility Values – Good News

The 7 Civility Values are Supported by World Religions – Good News

7 Civility Values – Good News

Civility: I Will Survive

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Civility faces many challenges to survive and thrive. It possesses many advantages.

Conceptually

They say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one.
The umbrella terms liberal and conservative are inadequate to political dimensions and individuals.
Despite DEI politics, most Americans support diversity, equal opportunity and acceptance.
Thought leaders realize there is no alternative to Civility for a modern society to function.
We define “certainty” for science and religion. We have post-Newton insights in the last 100 years.
We understand “victim” language. We can help ourselves and our friends to reject this burden.

Logically

Civility encourages us to accurately diagnose the current situation.
Despite political extremism, instrumental logic and facts rule the scientific and business worlds.
Civility is designed to be nonpartisan, allowing political parties to embrace this approach to effectiveness.
The 7 Civility values are equally attractive to liberals and conservatives.
Civility is able to promote public-spiritedness without leaning left.

Morally

The Civility behaviors are mostly consistent with human nature. The rest can be taught.
In a time of advanced technologies and artificial intelligence, focusing first on human dignity is wise.
While Civility focuses on behaviors and a few values, it can be driven by more emotional values.
We better understand the benefits and limits of tolerance and its role as a social value.
Most people see the costs of extreme individualism to themselves, family, neighbors and coworkers.
By highlighting the habit of skepticism, we can greatly reduce its poisonous impact.

Progressively

The track record of modern society solving problems is very strong.
Our world has an increasing experience base of finding both/and descriptions and solutions.
We do have a long track record of reducing our perceptions of “the other” as a threat.
We have more experience outsourcing government functions to reduce the sense of intrusion.
The change is based on incremental improvements rather than heroic efforts and projects.
Modern communications capabilities can effectively promote moderate, complex, less emotional positions.
As Robert Putnam documents in The Upswing, we have revised our social institutions before.

Powerfully

Civility is supported by a super majority of independents, Republicans and Democrats.
Corporations need Civility to operate complex organizations. They will recruit, train and reward Civility.
Civility embraces a wide diversity or political and religious beliefs.
Civility is supported by many churches, businesses, professions, universities and governments.
Leaders of Europe’s more secular democracies strongly embrace Civility.
There is no fundamental opposition to Civility by China’s leaders.
Civility is strongly supported by the major religions.
The 7 Civility values are supported by all major religions and philosophies.
Unquestioned religion or scientism are dead. Better insights and communication are possible.
The Catholic church can strongly support Civility.
Protestant churches can support Civility without overemphasizing “social justice”.

Politically

Societies have always had political differences. Our differences are no greater than in history.
In the American 2-party system, the center normally has extra political weight.
Political parties, groupings, ideologies and polarization naturally change through time.
We have 50 years of post-60’s social policy debates. We know that we will always disagree on some things.
The diversity of states allows the benefits of federalism to accrue with better policies emerging.
The reliance of the classical liberal political model on shared values is better recognized.
The unintended consequences of politically extreme policies become obvious in time.

The impossibility of extreme political parties/factions delivering on their promises becomes apparent.
Ironically, liberals have become “cultural conservatives”, promoting a 250-year-old approach.
Liberals increasingly see the value of allowing states to determine social and economic policies.
Some liberals see that 100% enforcement of social policies drives strong opposition for little benefit.
Broadly defined insecurity has become a political priority that will generate nonpartisan solutions.

Educationally


Modern cognitive science, counselling and organizational behavior are highly effective.
By defining Civility as a set of behaviors, we make it teachable, actionable and leverageable.

The Civility lessons are straightforward, allowing many to lead workshops.
Solid Civility lesson plans can be developed in many places and used everywhere.
We can fine-tune and package hundreds of Civility training exercises to serve everyone.
Organizations and individuals can rely upon counselling, groups and training.
We can greatly improve our school curriculums to teach Civility as a solution to real differences.
Civility is practiced and improved in all arenas of life. Improvements are leveraged.

Virally

In a highly specialized world, there are more opportunities to apply Civility “win-win” principles.
Civility is not an “all or nothing” set of behaviors. Incremental progress is normal.
The more challenging Civility behaviors can be practiced in safer, local environments.
Local expectations of Civility allow all individuals to apply and grow these behaviors.
Civility can be practiced in any environment without permission from anyone.
Civility skills, values, beliefs can be developed and applied without any approvals.
The virtuous cycle of Civility applies at levels. Good behavior or feedback drives more good behavior.
The practice of Civility generates “positive externalities” for others. The state should support it.
The practice of Civility provides a role model for others to emulate.
Social norms are very powerful. Most people learn them implicitly.
Civility behaviors can become habits which then apply without thought or effort.

Beneficially

Every person can serve as a Civility ambassador, champion or “civiliteer”.
High-level Civility skills are personally and professionally highly valuable.
The Civility emphasis on self-awareness and values clarification can improve quality of life.
Humans have much in common and can learn this.
Americans have much in common.
We understand “human nature” deeply, so can adjust to leverage strengths and patch weaknesses.
Americans are proud of their political system and will invest in Civility to preserve it.
Civility’s focus on human dignity supports the modern high importance of personal identity.
As individuals seek validation of their identities, Civility can help to facilitate good conversations.
Our greatly improved understanding of behavioral economics provides new policy opportunities.

Summary

The modern approach to improving and installing Civility as a major social norm is audacious, yet it has great support.

Culture Shock of the Sixties

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The 1960s are considered a massive cultural shock because they marked a rapid, comprehensive rejection of traditional 1950s social norms, fueled by a booming youth population, the Vietnam War, and mass media. It shattered established authority in politics, race relations, gender roles, and lifestyle, shifting Western society toward personal liberation. Google AI – April 6, 2026

Key Factors Behind the 1960s Cultural Shift:

  • Counterculture and Lifestyle: A youth-driven movement rejected conventional morality, embracing “free love,” casual sex, drug use, communal living, and distinct fashion changes like the miniskirt and long hair.
  • Civil Rights and Equality: The struggle for racial equality transformed society, punctuated by the Civil Rights Act of 1964
    and Voting Rights Act of 1965, alongside the rise of second-wave feminism.
  • The Vietnam War and Anti-War Protests: The war, amplified by television, created a “credibility gap” between government claims and reality, sparking intense youth protest and mistrust of authority.
  • Technological and Social Changes: The proliferation of television created a unified media experience, while the advent of “the Pill” significantly altered sexual norms and gender dynamics.
  • Musical and Artistic Explosion: Music, particularly rock and folk, became a vessel for social critique and the unification of a new generation (e.g., Woodstock).
  • A “Bridge” Decade: The 1960s acted as a transition from the conservative, black-and-white media era to the more permissive, colorful “modern” world, with technological advancements like early satellite communication and computers.

This period is unique because it forced a shift from traditional institutional authority (church, family, state) to personal authenticity, empathy, and moral sensitivity.

[1] https://www.nypl.org/blog/2011/11/15/sixties-era-pop-cultural-revolution-america

[2] https://www.britannica.com/topic/1960s-counterculture

[3] https://frompovertytoprogress.substack.com/p/conscience-without-god-the-cultural

[4] https://www.rbf.org/about/our-history/timeline/1960s-tradition-and-tumult

[5] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xw9kTR4ribo

[6] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Counterculture_of_the_1960s

[7] https://issuesinperspective.com/2018/06/how-the-1960s-transformed-american-civilization/

[8] https://www.reddit.com/r/decadeology/comments/1ntagh6/the_1960s_is_the_decade_that_best_represents_the/

[9] https://www.quora.com/Why-did-American-society-experience-so-much-turmoil-in-the-1960s

[10] https://www.gilderlehrman.org/history-resources/essays/sixties

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Finnish SISU: Extraordinary Perseverance

Finland is a tiny country. 5.6 million people in a world of 8.3 billion people. One of every 1,500 people lives in Finland. About the size of metro Philadelphia or metro Atlanta. Smaller than 72 cities. Less than Miami, Singapore, Dallas or Toronto. Just 1/5th the size of Jakarta, Dhaka, Tokyo, Delhi or Shanghai!!!!

An unusual language, distantly related to Hungarian and more closely connected with Estonian.

Yet, it clearly “punches above its weight”. 5 Nobel prize winners. Retaining its independence in 1940 against a vastly superior Russian army. 480 Olympic medals. Perennial global ice hockey competitor. Paavo Nurmi, the flying Finn. 2006 Eurovision song winner. Northern lights. Reindeer.

Finland experienced massive outmigration through time. 500,000 to the US and Canada. 650,000 Finnish descendants in the US today. 140,000 to Russia. 500,000 to Sweden.

Balmy Helsinki’s average daily high is 30 in December/January/February and 69 in June/July/August.

Today we incredibly look to Finland as the “happiest” country in the world with the “best” school system! This does not compute!

The SISU attitude is considered a national treasure. Extraordinary perseverance, an action mindset, latent power, resilience, community, spiritual force, the good life. In essence, an indomitable collective will to survive and thrive despite many threats.

An example for all of the world to consider.

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Finnish fun.

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Covey’s “7 Habits” and Civility

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People – Leader In Me

Stephen Covey’s 1989 book invented the personal development industry for modern employers and employees. It has sold more than 20 million copies and helped millions of people become “more effective”.

I’ll connect the “7 habits” to the very independently derived 7 values and 7 skills/behaviors of Civility.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People – Wikipedia

Civility is Really About 7 Behaviors – Good News

Civility Resources (5): Action – Good News

7 Civility Values – Good News

Civility Resources (4): Values – Good News

Covey’s book is principle centered, focused on character development and the importance of managing perceptions.

Civility is “principle centered”, based on the 7 nonpartisan values of human dignity, respect, acceptance, responsibility, constructiveness, intentionality and public spiritedness.

Civility is based upon 7 skills/behaviors of self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship management, communications, growth and problem-solving that also acknowledge the importance of a lifetime of personal development. The 6th behavior outlines how the practice of Civility leads to personal growth.

Civility emphasizes the crucial role of identifying, understanding and shaping personal perspectives, insights and world views. The 4 values of respect, acceptance, responsibility and public spiritedness require the individual to work on refining their world views. Similarly, the self-awareness and social awareness behaviors emphasize the need to clearly define and sometimes challenge real views as part of social discourse or civil dialogue.

1. Be Proactive (Google AI)

Stephen Covey’s Habit 1: “Be Proactive” relates to civility by placing the responsibility for respectful behavior on the individual rather than on external circumstances or other people’s actions. Being proactive means choosing to respond with values—such as kindness and respect—rather than reacting based on feelings, which fosters a more civil, constructive, and collaborative environment.

Choice of Response vs. Reaction: Covey argues that between a stimulus (e.g., someone being rude) and the response, there is a space to choose. Proactive individuals use this space to choose a civil, value-based response, rather than blindly reacting with anger or sarcasm, which would diminish civility.

Owning One’s Behavior: Proactive people do not blame their behavior on others or their environment (“he makes me so mad”). Instead, they act with accountability, knowing that their own conduct is a result of their own decisions.

Focus on the Circle of Influence: Proactive people focus on what they can control—their own attitude, language, and behavior. They understand that while they cannot control another person’s rudeness, they can control their own polite response, which can often improve the situation.

Proactive Language: Proactive people use language that implies choice, such as “I can,” “I will,” or “I choose”. This language is inherently more empowering and respectful than the reactive language of blame (“He makes me…”, “I have to…”).

Acting with Intention: Proactive individuals create a climate of respect, rather than waiting for others to do so. They take the initiative to communicate clearly, apologize for mistakes, and behave with kindness, which acts as a proactive driver of civility in professional and personal relationships.

By taking ownership of their behavior, proactive individuals stop blaming “out there” for their issues, thereby reducing conflict and increasing respectful interaction.

TK Summary: Strong overlap with Civility values of responsibility and intentionality, overlap with respect and constructiveness. Strong overlap with Civility behavior self-management, overlap with communication, self-awareness and social awareness. Civility is not about politeness, surface level choices, weakness or moderation. It focuses on making great choices and deeply owning those choices.

2. Begin With the End in Mind (Google AI)

Stephen Covey‘s second habit, Begin with the End in Mind, relates to civility by framing daily interactions as steps toward a long-term legacy of character and relationship quality. Instead of reacting to immediate frustrations, this principle encourages individuals to act according to their core values and the “end” they want to achieve in their personal and professional lives. 

In the context of civility, this habit manifests in several ways:

Relationship Preservation as the “End”: In conflict resolution, beginning with the end in mind means visualizing a successful outcome where the relationship is preserved or strengthened, rather than just “winning” an argument.

The Eulogy Exercise: Covey famously asks people to visualize their own funeral and consider what they want friends, family, and colleagues to say about their character. If you want to be remembered as kind, respectful, and fair, you must practice those civil behaviors in the present to make that “end” a reality.

Principle-Centered Living: By centering one’s life on unchanging principles like trust and honesty, an individual can maintain civil behavior even in the face of adversity, rather than being swayed by temporary emotions or external circumstances.

Intentional Communication: This habit encourages visualizing the desired atmosphere of a conversation or meeting before it begins. This mental “first creation” allows for more deliberate, empathetic, and respectful communication.

Living by Design, Not Default: Without a clear vision of who you want to be, you may fall into reactive, uncivil patterns dictated by pre-existing habits or others’ behaviors. Intentionally choosing your “end” goal empowers you to respond with civility by design.

TK Summary: The Civility values of respect and intentionality stand out, followed by human dignity and responsibility. The Civility behaviors of relationship management and self-management are essential here, also using self-awareness and problem-solving to create this habit.

3. Put First Things First (Google AI)

Stephen Covey’s “Put First Things First” habit relates to civility by prioritizing long-term relationship building, respect, and ethical behavior over reactive, urgent, but unimportant demands. It emphasizes investing time in people and principles, ensuring that how we treat others remains a top priority rather than an afterthought sacrificed for immediate, urgent tasks.

Key connections include:

Prioritizing Relationships: By focusing on Quadrant II (important but not urgent) activities, such as relationship building and proactive communication, people cultivate a respectful and supportive environment, rather than treating interactions as interruptions.

Proactive Self-Management: It requires managing oneself to live according to values, which prevents rushing, stress-induced rudeness, and, instead, fosters a calm, thoughtful approach to interactions.

Valuing People Over Tasks: It emphasizes that people and their well-being are paramount, ensuring that interacting with others is treated as a priority rather than a “low-priority” task compared to other work.

Preventing Ethical Crises: By acting on principles before they become urgent problems, individuals are more likely to behave with integrity and maintain professional civility.

TK Summary: Here, Covey focuses on the Civility values of human dignity and acceptance, supported by respect. He emphasizes the Civility behaviors of relationship management and self-management, supported by communications and personal growth.

4. Think Win-Win (Google AI)

Stephen Covey’s “Think Win-Win” habit (Habit 4) is directly related to civility by serving as a character-based code for interaction that requires mutual respect, emotional maturity, and the balance of courage and consideration. It builds a culture of trust and collaboration, replacing competitive “win-lose” mentalities with cooperative, respectful, and mutually beneficial relationships.

Key relationships between “Think Win-Win” and civility include:

Mutual Respect and Consideration: Win-win requires valuing other people’s needs as much as your own, which is the foundation of respectful communication.

Emotional Maturity: It requires the “courage” to express your own needs and the “consideration” to listen to others, forming the basis of mature, civil dialogue.

Abundance Mentality: It assumes there is enough for everyone, promoting a cooperative mindset over scarcity-driven competition, fostering generosity rather than selfishness.

Trust Building: By aiming for solutions where everyone feels satisfied, this habit builds long-term trust, which is the cornerstone of civil interaction.

Think Win-Win isn’t simply about being “nice”; it is a framework for ensuring that interactions are respectful, fair, and beneficial for all stakeholders.

TK Summary: The Civility value of true respect is first, augmented by acceptance, responsibility, intentionality and public-spiritedness. Self-management is the primary Civility behavior, accompanied by social awareness, relationship management, communications and problem-solving.

5. Seek First to Understand, Then Be Understood (Google AI)

Stephen Covey’s habit of “Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood” (Habit 5) is foundational to civility because it replaces judgmental listening with empathic listening, cultivating respect and validation in interactions. By prioritizing understanding over simply being right, it promotes patience, reduces conflict, and fosters deeper human connections.

Promotes Empathy & Respect: Instead of listening to respond or judge, this habit encourages listening with the intent to truly understand another person’s perspective and emotions.

Suspends Judgment: It fosters a mindset of pausing and suspending judgment, which is essential for treating others with dignity.

Builds Trust Through Validation: When others feel heard and understood, it gives them “psychological air,” encouraging a safe, collaborative environment rather than a combative one.

Combats Dehumanization: It forces one to see the person behind an argument or avatar, preventing the rush to judgment often found in poor, uncivil discourse.

Balance of Courage and Consideration: This habit teaches that true influence is built by combining kindness (seeking to understand) with courage (being understood), facilitating Win/Win outcomes.

TK Summary: Covey highlights the first 3 Civility values of human dignity, respect and acceptance. “Others” really, really matter. He then elevates the Civility behaviors of self-management and communications (active listening), complemented by social awareness and relationship management.

6. Synergize (Google AI)

Stephen Covey’s habit of Synergize (Habit 6) relates to Civility by fostering creative cooperation through valuing differences, empathetic listening, and seeking “third alternatives” (Win/Win) rather than conflict. It transforms respectful, polite communication into synergistic collaboration, treating diverse viewpoints as assets, not threats.

Key connections between synergy and civility include:

Valuing Differences: Synergy goes beyond mere tolerance (politeness) to truly valuing mental, emotional, and psychological differences, which is the foundation of a civil, inclusive society.

Empathetic Communication: Synergizing requires seeking first to understand others, creating a safe, respectful environment where individuals feel valued.

Moving Beyond Defensiveness: It replaces defensive, protective, or legalistic communication with open and honest dialogue.

Co-creation of Solutions: It actively seeks a “third way” that is better than either party’s original idea, promoting partnership rather than win-lose confrontations.

TK Summary: The Civility values of respect and acceptance are critical supports for synergy: a belief in interactive teamwork. The Civility behaviors of modern “best practices” communications and problem solving are required for synergy to deliver the goods.

7. Sharpen the Saw (Google AI)

Stephen Covey‘s 7th Habit, Sharpen the Saw, relates to civility by focusing on the social and emotional renewal required to interact with others respectfully and effectively. This habit emphasizes that a depleted or “dull” individual is more likely to be reactive, impatient, and ineffective in their relationships.

The relationship between “Sharpening the Saw” and civility manifests in several key ways:

Emotional Regulation and Reduced Reactivity

Preventing Burnout: Without regular renewal, emotions become “raw” and the spirit becomes insensitive.

Interpersonal Resilience: Leaders who prioritize physical and emotional self-care are less reactive and better prepared to handle interpersonal challenges with composure.

The “Private Victory”: Covey argues that personal renewal (the private victory) must precede successful public interactions (the public victory). Civility is difficult to maintain when one is operating from a state of exhaustion or stress. 

Social and Emotional Renewal

Empathetic Connection: Sharpening the “social saw” involves cultivating empathy and emotional intelligence, which are foundational to civil behavior.

Building the “Emotional Bank Account”: This habit encourages making “deposits” into others’ emotional bank accounts through courtesy, kindness, and honesty.

Interdependent Habits: Habit 7 makes Habits 4, 5, and 6 (Think Win-Win, Seek First to Understand, and Synergize) possible. These habits represent the core of civil and cooperative social interaction.

Principled Character Development

Alignment with Values: Renewal in the spiritual dimension involves committing to a value system that often includes integrity, kindness, and human dignity.

Civic Responsibility: By focusing on self-improvement, individuals increase their capacity to contribute positively to their community and maintain a “minimal model of a civic citizen”.

TK Summary: Covey calls out the Civility value of human dignity as essential to living a great life, followed by the importance of respect for others. This habit matches up directly with the Civility behavior of personal growth and notes the importance of self-management and social awareness in living a sustainable good life in the modern world.

Summary

Many of us lived through the “malaise” of the 1970’s and 1980’s as the US tried to digest the cultural revolution of the 1960’s, the political disappointments of Vietnam and Watergate, and the global economic revolution of the 1970’s and 1980’s. The US was no longer invincible. It was threatened on all sides. Covey’s book was a clarion call to refocus on “character”. Yet, it was not about a soft, countercultural “greening of America” or a naive return to 1950’s cultural certainties. It was about the tools required for individuals to survive and thrive in a complex, global, secular world. It was not a politically partisan approach.

His “7 habits” have stood the test of time. The crosswalk with Civility is very dense. He is focused on the individual looking for habits of successful personal development. Civility is focused on the minimal values and behaviors required to maintain Civil discourse at all levels of an interdependent society.

He strongly agrees that human dignity, respect and acceptance are required for every individual. Responsibility and intentionality are very important. Constructiveness and public-spiritedness matter.

Self-management, relationship management and effective communication skills are essential. Moderate self-awareness and social awareness are needed for success. Personal growth and problem-solving skills are also required.

We collectively have an obligation to define, teach and build Civility skills/behaviors and values for the benefit of our fellow citizens and society. The overlap with Stephen Covey’s highly successful “7 habits” tells me we’re on the right path.

The Ethics of Authenticity / The Malaise of Modernity (1991) – Charles Taylor – Good News

We’re MUCH Better Off in 2026 – Good News

The 8 Older Men and Civility

The blind men and the elephant: Is perception reality?

In recent times, eight older men lived in an Indiana community. Each was successfully retired and quite confident. Their neighbors loved the older men and encouraged their breakfast group meetings. Since the older men were no longer actively engaged at work, they had to imagine how things really operated. They listened carefully to stories about the active world of business, government, politics, health care, science, and leadership told to them by others.

The men were curious about many of the stories they heard, but they were most curious about Civility as a super solution to social challenges. They were told that Civility could fix politics, solve tough problems, promote personal growth, reinsert facts and logic into debate, revive trust, social relationships and institutions, and restore the balance between individuals and community. 

They remembered Indiana as a very special place with great leaders. They recognized Birch and Evan Bayh, VP’s Quayle and Pence, representatives Lee Hamilton and Julia Carson, Indianapolis mayors Hudnut, Goldsmith, Petersen, Ballard and Hogsett, mayor and senator Lugar, but especially Governor Mitch Daniels.  They knew that Daniels had been effective for Indiana, America and Purdue.  Did Daniels believe in this Civility miracle solution?

The older men argued day and night about Civility. “Civility must be too simple,” claimed the first man. He had heard stories that it ignores real differences and big solutions.

“No, you must be wrong,” argued the second man. “Civility is complicated, combining values and habits in search of perfection.  That is why people struggle to follow it.”

“You’re wrong! Civility seeks compromise, the middle ground and the golden mean.  It combines the best that participants can offer,” said the third man.

“Please,” said the fourth man. “You are all mistaken. Civility grandly guarantees that it can solve all problems and conflicts! You know how people exaggerate.”

“How can you be so naïve,” exclaimed the fifth man.  “Civility simply rationalizes weak, overly sensitive behaviors that avoid conflict and deny human nature.”

“Civility ignores passion and the emotions,” cried the sixth man.  “It eliminates feelings, values, and intuitions by emphasizing cold rationality alone.”

“I am sure that Civility is a leftist plot,” said the seventh man. “That would explain why it emphasizes the importance and legitimacy of government.”

“On the contrary,” declared the eighth man. “Civility is a Republican scheme to return to the 1950’s with its mindless emphasis on a single culture, morality, character and values.”

Finally, the neighbors grew tired of all the arguments, and arranged for the curious men to visit the home office of Mr. Daniels to learn the truth about Civility.

When the men reached the home a half-hour ahead of schedule, they were greeted by an old friend who managed the governor’s visitors. Their friend led them to a waiting room where they watched a 10-minute video on Civility. The retired men quickly began to argue.

The first man stood up and exclaimed. “Civility is just common sense, nothing special.”

The second man misquoted the video. “Civility claims that all people can get along and all problems can be solved,” he announced.

The third man disagreed. “I was right,” he decided. “Civility is a tool of the powerful to maintain the status quo.”

The fourth man criticized Civility’s idealism. “What we have here,” he said, “is a sort of cult, invoking magical practices to reach utopian ends.”

The fifth man responded, “Civility is hopelessly weak because it asserts that strong emotions, interpersonal relations, sensitivity and hospitality can mend all fences.”

The sixth man stated, “Civility is very powerful.  It allows groups and individuals to acquire and use power for their own ends, while dismissing the needs and desires of others.”

The seventh man considered the actors in the presentation. “Civility elevates individuals and personal growth above church and community, so it must favor Democrats,” he said.

The eighth man was shocked. “Why, Civility is nothing more than a way for the powerful to reassert social control through norms, taboos and shunning,” he scoffed.

The governor’s aide led his friends to the kitchen. “Sit here and rest,” he said. “I will bring you something to drink.”

While they waited, the eight men talked about Civility.

“Civility is just politeness, rules and etiquette.  It is a surface level approach,” said the first man. “Surely we can finally agree on that.”

“Just politeness? Civility aims to transform men, institutions and society” answered the second man.

“Transformation?  Civility focuses just on process, promotes elite values and prevents real arguments and solutions” insisted the third man.

“It’s impossible for everyone to develop such powerful skills that effectively bridge real human differences,” said the fourth man.

“Civility merely assumes that better skills, processes and values can manage differences, conflicts and human nature through the forces of goodwill,” noted the fifth man.

“Civility provides a socially approved way for individuals to emphasize form over substance.  They can perform in a civil manner without really addressing the needs of others,” cautioned the sixth man.

“Socialist subjectivity and radical tolerance. There’s no doubt,” said the seventh man.

“Don’t you see?” pleaded the eighth man. “Civility is intended to keep us occupied and distracted by small issues and away from the larger issues of systematic injustice.  Someone is using Civility to trick us.”

Their argument continued and their shouts grew louder and louder.

“Too simple!” “Too complex!” “Too moderate!” “Too extreme!” “Too soft!” “Too hard!” “Too liberal!” “Too conservative!”

“Stop shouting!” called a very angry voice.

It was Purdue President emeritus Daniels, disturbed by the noisy argument.

“How can each of you be so certain you are right?” asked the former governor.

The eight men considered the question. And then, knowing the budget director to be a very wise man, they decided to say nothing at all.

“Civility combines values, skills and behaviors to solve problems and build relations,” said Mr. Daniels. “Each of you exaggerates the importance of only one part. Perhaps if you put the parts together, you will see the truth. Now, let me finish my morning in peace.”

When their friend returned with drinks, the eight men rested quietly, thinking about their leader’s advice.

“He is right,” said the first man. “To learn the truth, we must put all the parts together. Let’s discuss this on the journey home.”

The first man found his seat on the senior bus. The second man found his seat, and so on until all eight men were ready to travel together.

References (and apologies …)

Peace Corps – The Blind Men and the Elephant

Civility is Nonpartisan – Good News

Civility is Not Simple or Easy – Good News

Opposition to Civility is Unconvincing – Good News

Opposition to Civility is Unconvincing (2) – Good News

Civility is for Everyone! – Good News

Civility: Can’t We All Just Get Along? – Good News